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Bullying at school at 2.5 years?

Had anyone else dealt with this at such a young age? My daughter is not yet 2.5 and I think she is being bullied by a 3 year old who used to be in the same class with her. They were friends before and I think my daughter has a hard time understanding the age difference and that since this girl moved up she has new friends, but this girl says some mean things to my daughter and I’m pretty sure she snatched part of her lunch last week. The girl’s mom told me they found one of my daughter’s lunch containers in their daughter’s lunchbox, but that her daughter said she didn’t eat what was inside. When I asked my daughter about it (as open endedly as possible) she said she didn’t eat the contents in the container but kept changing her story as to who took it. She’s so young it’s hard to know what really happened sometimes and I have no idea how to deal with this. I don’t want to ruin my friendship with the mom either, but something is definitely going on. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

  • PK
    Oct 13, 2018

    I don’t have any experience in this as my son is still home with me but my first reaction might be to talk to the teacher first. See if they might be able to keep an eye on your daughter during the times that the other girl can be interacting with her. If no luck with the teacher then you might have to speak with someone higher up at the school.. get someone to investigate for you and get a clear picture of what’s going on. That’s so young to see bullying... I’m sorry ☹️

  • Vicki
    Oct 13, 2018

    Definitely talk to the teachers first and see what is going on at school. My daughter had a similar issue around the same age... almost everyday she would come home and say this boy pushed or hit her or was just generally mean. She never had any marks though and other kids just said he was mean... my daughter seemed targeted with the hitting. The teachers were aware and kept them apart for the most part. They are both almost 5 now, still in the same class, and are buddies. At the time, he was new to the class so it seemed to be problems with transition but we never figured out why my daughter was the one he’d hit. She’s outgoing so maybe it was overwhelming for him, who knows. Having the teachers insight helps a lot!

  • Birdie
    Oct 13, 2018

    Talk with the mom. Don’t label it as bullying b/c she will immediately jump into defensive mode. Voice you concern that you feel their relationship has changed but you’re not sure how or what exactly is going on. You’ve noticed your daughter acting a certain & if she has noticed any changes in her daughter. Ask her to just keep an eye out on things so you both can get a better idea of what’s going on. Until then make sure your daughter knows to speak up & tell an adult. She’s not telling on someone, she’s asking for help.