Anonymous

Bummin’ out!

I’ll try to make this story as short as possible; I guess I just feel the need to vent in hopes that someone might understand how I feel. I’m almost 37 weeks pregnant with baby #2. I did not have a baby shower with #1 because a.) no one offered b.) we were moving to a different state in a few months. Fast forward we are now in a new state with new friends. When I was around 25 weeks pregnant, one of my closest “new” friends told my husband that she was going to throw me a surprise “Sprinkle”. One night I was telling my husband maybe we could do a BBQ and diaper raffle and he had to tell me about the surprise so I wouldn’t plan a get together myself. He made me swear to forget about it and let it be a surprise. Every weekend since then, I have thought “OH maybe today it’s happening!” And nothing. Now that I’m so far along I finally asked my husband if it was happening and he said he would text her to find out. She never responded. The kicker is that this friend finally got pregnant from IVF and I know she has been super busy with all she has gone through. I guess I just feel bummed because I never really got the whole baby shower experience, I wanted the pictures with the friends’ hands on my belly and just the overall experience of feeling “special” for the day. A maternity dress, all that Jazz. My husband feels like a total jerk for telling me. Maybe I’m just being extra emotional and sensitive? I’m trying not to be mad about it because she has had such a tough time getting pregnant! Sorry this was so long, thank you for letting me vent!

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    It’s ok to be upset (and to realize pregnancy is amplifying those feelings). Maybe you and the hubs can throw a baby meet and greet party after she comes and you can start a whole new set of memories!

  • Karen
    Oct 04

    Aweee. I did both of my baby showers for my self with the help of my mom. You should do it for yourself!!

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    You’re both right, maybe a meet and greet afterwards and I’ll just throw it myself :) I don’t think I’d have the energy to do one now unfortunately!!! ❤️

  • JJ
    Oct 04

    I never had showers for any of my kids because I hate stuff like that, but if you want one, plan it! There's nothing wrong with that. I've even heard of people doing after the baby arrived. You've got time, go all out!

  • Victoria
    Oct 04

    I had to throw my own. It was very stressful but worth it.

  • CiCi
    Oct 04

    I didn't have a baby shower for my son. Thinking back I kinda wish I would have for the same reason, just feeling special and having people show love to your baby. I think if you want to have a baby shower, then do it. ❤ I'm not sure if you are willing to throw yourself a shower, but it's perfectly normal. I almost think it's becoming more common to do it yourself then people offering to throw one for an expecting mom.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    I do feel a little funny about throwing it for myself, especially since it is my second child, I don’t even care about the gifts, I just want people to celebrate our new little one. Being away from my friends and family is hard because you don’t really get the same kind of support and excitement being miles away. Thanks ladies for being understanding! 🍭💕 I think maybe we will do a little meet and greet

  • Cynthia
    Oct 08

    I did! I prefer it actually. I don’t like to put pressure on anyone. I had friends offer to do stuff once I got the ball rolling. I enjoying throwing baby showers for friends, but I feel like it’s my job to do my own parties. I don’t want anyone to feel obligated.