Seems like there are multiple fronts where you can start chipping away at being the sole person responsible. Can your husband make the baby's food? At 11 months I'd think they're eating what you're eating. Does it all have to be from scratch? Also an 11 month old waking up that much seems like a lot. Have you considered sleep training? And are you considering weaning off of breastfeeding soon? Not sure how to handle your husband's stress and anxiety but lowering your standards can be helpful. He's not going to do everything just like you do. Maybe start a new nanny search and separate the job from cleaning so you get someone who's actually good with your toddler.
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