Posted in Mental Health, Single Parents, Self Care

Can I still anything???

Anonymous

So, my baby is 20 months. Almost 2. I am a single mom and have zero support. My family is not around. My friends are in a different city. I mean zero. I used to be a bad ass. Before I was a mom. I am a good mom (I think) but that is all, now. Everything I've tried to commit to for myself as a normal human has resulted in a failure. Like health commitments - social- job- continuing education- personal goals. Seriously I think every thing. I can't bring myself to complete anything well. Besides my mom duties (which i love) I think I became dumb..... can anyone relate to what I'm saying? Any advice? I keep reading stuff like "you got this" but I know I actually don't have it- from experience.... just keep pressing? I feel like something is gonna have to shift soon.

  • Lonny
    Oct 27

    When I get down and feel like giving up, I think about what type of future I want for my 2 little ones. I can't imagine what it is like to be a single mom with no support, but I do know that whatever you are trying to accomplish, do it with your baby in mind. The little one DEPENDS on you and no one else. Also, prioritize yourself...do you want to finish school first? Get a steady job first? And remember you're NOT a failure. Yes, we make mistakes and do fails at things, but that doesn't define who you are. You are worth every single breath and you're doing an amazing job being a mom 😊 We fall on hard times, we just have to get up and keep pushing through it because at the end of it, there's a great reward. So hold your head up, pick yourself up, and do it for your baby and yourself.💕

  • Anonymous
    Oct 27

    I'm not giving up. I just sincerely don't know why I am struggling to do normal things that I would ordinarily not have an issue with accomplishing. I am searching for answers not motivation. I don't even feel like I've made mistakes. I just keep falling short.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 27

    You're searching for answers. The answer is your 2 year old is literally sucking the life out of you! I have a 15 month old and a husband and mother who occasionally helps... and I'm still exhausted before noon every day. I can't imagine I'd have energy to even try doing anything but parent if I had to do it alone. If you're unhappy with the current situation, perhaps re-prioritize what's really important to you. Parenthood is all about choosing what matters most... the days of doing it all are over. I wouldn't look at it as you became dumb, just that your brain is rewiring itself for other things (like tactics to get your toddler to brush their teeth, eat their food, and stop screaming for the damn toy in public).

  • Anonymous
    Oct 28

    Thaaaaaank you.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 28

    Thanks. It feels a little lonely sometimes. But just dancing with my little girl to worship music or anything / every thing she does is fun. But when it comes to adulting I feel slow 🙃 it really helps to have someone just understand and validate your thoughts and feelings. She's going to day school tomorrow!