Posted in In-Laws, Working Parents

Can’t sleep. MIL pissed me off again!

Anonymous

My MIL watches my child 2x a week (my mom the other 3x). I was telling my best friend that the last week, I haven’t hated waking up to seeing my MIL in my house!!! I even made conversation, kind of. Applause all around!!! Then, she goes and pissed me off again. We are out for lunch with BIL/gf/MIL, and I have child next to me cornered on one side of the table. MIL is across from child. “Finally” my child is out of her high chair, dad takes her to rinse up. he returns and of course MIL takes this opportunity to grab her. Within 3 seconds she’s being handed over to the lady sitting behind MIL/complete stranger (MIL loves attention and thinks my child is a shiny new toy). Even the lady’s grade school kids go “did you just steal a baby?” I’m fuming and mouthing so many things, I fake my smile with less effort than normal so MAYbe MIL takes the hint... BIL sees this and smiles awkwardly and his comments reflect mine. Thank GOODNESS he agrees... MY CHILD IS NOT YOUR ATTENTION GRABBING TOY! FYI this is one of many instances. This one in particular is recent 😂🤬🤬🤬

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08, 2019

    Stop “smiling less” and just stop her. Tell her you’d like your baby not to be held by strangers. You’re sure she’ll understand.

  • Luis
    Oct 08, 2019

    You got good advice there. Don’t keep stuff inside, be transparent and say what you are thinking and how you want things done... the trick is: do it from a place of love, talk to her like you love her and you can say anything.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08, 2019

    Does anyone feel like I’m being too over protective/FTM/influenced by the obvious overbearing MIL issues? There may be a generational and cultural difference too.. just wondering how you would feel! Thanks’

  • Luis
    Oct 08, 2019

    Yes... maybe... does it matter? You have the right to your feelings, they are yours, it’s just a question of how you deal with it. When it comes to protecting your kid, go with your gut and always err on the side of precaution. If you feel it ain’t right, it ain’t right. Remember, when it comes to to our kids, you only owe explanations to the other parent, it’s no one else’s business.

  • Nikki
    Nov 15

    Literally MIL tried this when my LO was extremely young and I explained myself probably not in the best way possible but my son is my son and if he gets sick or something I’m the one stuck with a fussy baby not them. You and your SO are responsible for your child. Speak up and allow them to hear you. And if they don’t hear you make them HEAR YOU. In laws are truly something else... more so mother in laws ...