Posted in Child's Health, Mental Health, Newborns

Constantly stressed about newborn catching something

Anonymous

A friend of mines newborn caught the RSV virus. And it has been awful for the little one. Now I have a newborn and I am constantly stressed of her catching it from visitors. First of all, I don’t allow visitors. But immediate family do insist. I make sure they wash there hands, sanitize, etc. Although, they get really offended about my approach. Also, with a toddler that attends daycare- I make sure to change her clothes when she gets home. (Wish is all pretty consuming) But a large part of me is horrified of toddler catching a cold from daycare, then there’s the newborn, how in the world does all of that work out? My husband said I’m Stressing for no reason. But times of changed, diseases have gotten worse. How do you all handle a scenario such as this one?

  • Amy
    Feb 08

    Awww, I'm sorry you're so worried and stressed. It is true that RSV can be awful. But, most babies don't get it. I think you're doing everything right to protect as much as possible, but try not to stress about it! Yeah, your toddler will eventually bring home something and the baby will catch it, but it's rare for babies to get dangerously sick. And some exposure to germs will help build up their immune system for the rest of their lives (not that I think you should deliberately expose! Just know that when it happens, it'll be ok). You've got this Mama!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 08

    Hi Amy, baby is now 1 week old. And my toddler seems under the weather. Which means she will be glued to me. Praying to get through this without the baby getting sick.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Feb 08

    Do you breastfeed? I have three very close in age (17 month, 20 months), two of which were born in the winter. It is stressful, but I am a stay at home mom, so I have to go out with the kids to storytimes and play areas and parks, and I mostly just keep baby attached to me, keep my kids vaccinated, and wash their hands before they touch baby and I haven’t had much trouble. I do personally believe that breastfeeding keeps my little ones immune systems up since I’m sure I get whatever everyone ends up with. I know not everyone is able to nurse, but if you are it is something that for me took that edge of the stress off. Hang in there!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 08

    Yes, I do breastfeed exclusively.

  • Cris
    Feb 10

    I have a 6 month old and still make my family wash their hands before holding my baby! (They also get offended) I’m a bit of a germaphobe and when my baby was younger I would stress sooo much about my toddler possibly passing something down to the baby. My toddler has been sick about 3 times since my baby was born and my baby didn’t get sick once. I breastfeed him and I think I have that to thank because my antibodies were passed through the breast milk.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 10

    Cris that is so comforting to hear. Was your toddler interactive with baby though? How did you handle sick toddler and baby in the same room? I feel bad telling my toddler to stay away from baby’s face because you are under the weather, try not to sneeze by baby. Wash your hands, change your cloths. The new baby thing is all so new to her. She was so excited to have a baby brother and now there’s all sorts of restrictions. I feel bad. But it’s for the greater good. I pray for sanity, patience and strength.

  • Cris
    Feb 10

    My toddler has shown so much affection towards his baby brother since the day we brought him home from the hospital! So it was extremely difficult for me to tell him stay away from the baby when he was sick. I didn’t want to him to think he was doing anything wrong. Before I could even catch my toddler he would run to the baby to give him a kiss with a runny nose! With time it will get easier, I promise. My toddler is once again sick and with my baby being a little bit bigger I’m not so worried. The first three months is really scary. My husband thought I was crazy and my family would just laugh at me but being a mama you want the best for your kids!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 13

    Cris- so did the newborn get sick the first month? I’m more so worried about that first month being that they are so fragile.

  • Cris
    Feb 15

    Nope! It is pretty scary, while they are so little and fragile. But don’t worry you will all be fine!

  • Tiana
    Tuesday

    I was super stressed about this during pregnancy, but once baby came I needed to get out. I was vigilant about hand washing and others holding the baby, but I wore him which made it easier to fend off random fingers and touchy hands. I was unapologetic in my approach of, “nope, he’s ok here. No, you may not hold him”