Anonymous

Couples Counseling

My husband and I just decided to go to couples counseling. We’ve always had ups and down, but since the baby came it feels like we struggle to communicate and bicker a lot. I know a lot of that is typical, as we are tired and busy and adjusting. Anyway, I’m terrified the result will be divorce. Anyone have success stories with counseling? Maybe if I keep ignoring it it would get better, but bringing it all out in the open will result in him deciding to leave?

  • Kala
    Oct 13, 2018

    Ignoring it definitely won’t make it better. I think you should try and talk with each other first. Lay out how you feel and make him understand that being a mom is hard and your adjusting to the new role just like he is. If talking together doesn’t work then try a couples therapist. Every parent goes through this when a baby comes so know your not alone. Also get your hormones checked out too because I know mine were all over the place and that was the main reason we fought because I was either in a bad mood or just depressed. Definitely don’t give up. Marriage isn’t easy and it’s something you have to work on every single day

  • Jenn
    Oct 13, 2018

    My husband and I went to counseling for about a year while we were engaged. I won't go into details but there were some pretty terrible things going on at the time (on my end). It was immensely helpful for both of us. If we hadn't begun going, I probably would've kept lying/ hiding and likely wouldn't have gotten married. I can't imagine where I'd have wound up. Ignoring the problem won't do any good. You should know though that (during counseling) things typically get worse before they get better.

  • Kris
    Oct 15, 2018

    Relationships/ marriages are hard to begin with but when you add little ones it’s a vast change to your union. Me and my husband went through it when we had our baby boy and it was incredibly rough in the beginning to adapt to the new roles and responsibilities but with time and ALOT of open and honest communication with one another we got through it. We considered counseling but tried being committed to working on us as a unit by stating what we needed and fulfilling that for each other. Ignoring the problem won’t help.