Posted in Babywearing, Behavior, Babies

Crying it out

So some days my baby (3 months) CONSTANTLY wants to be held the entire day (even during naps)!! We try and let her cry it out for a little bit however after 2-3 minutes she’s hysterical and starts chocking on her saliva. I mean she’s been fed and changed. What do we do since we can’t hold her all day and get stuff done.

  • Amanda
    Sep 27

    If A swing or bouncer won’t keep her a sleep for a little while I would just try to wear her so u can get stuff done. Or since it is just some days I would just hold her.

  • Jackie
    Sep 27

    Yea it doesn’t work.. I wear her but I feel that it makes the next day worse because she felt me and then she wants to do it again

  • Amanda
    Sep 27

    Huh idk then. Some days my daughter just has mommy days where I usually have to hold/play with her or she isn’t happy. Maybe she is having an issue like is gassy or has extra air and needs to burp more or something like that or just a phase she is going through and it will pass hopefully soon but other then that idk sry. Good luck to u.

  • Cassandra
    Sep 27

    So my son is the same way, he is also 3 months old and he wouldn’t even sleep at night without me holding him. I was going crazy from the sleep deprivation! It’s next to impossible to sleep while holding a baby! I was terrified all the time of rolling over on him or dropping him. Anyway, I did a bunch of research from other moms experiencing the same problems and found the most amazing thing! It’s called an Auto Rock n Play sleeper. (Make sure it’s the “Auto” rock n play) It has been an absolute lifesaver! It’s the only thing that has aloud me to get any sleep or anything done during the day! I highly recommend it! I also considered a Zen Sleep Sack. They are weighted which gives baby the illusion of being close against mommy or daddy. Hope this helps! Hang in there mama! Just remember that as frustrating as this is now, it won’t last forever and eventually you’ll look back and miss all the baby cuddles ♥️

  • Cassandra
    Sep 27

    Amanda may be on to something with the gas and/or reflux. My son suffers from both. The Auto Rock helps a ton with the reflux, also reflux meds from the doctor, and I found another product called Windi to help with gas and constipation.

  • Natalie
    Sep 27

    Your baby may just find comfort in being held. Should never hold them that much and should try tummy time so she won't choke on her saliva hopefully. Let her cried it out for a good minute though. I had to for my son who was breastfed.

  • Jenn
    Sep 27

    I recommend the Love to Dream Swaddleup. We put our LO in it around 2.5 months and she slept SO much better. It let's her hands be by her face so she can self-soothe, but also keeps her tight so she didn't startle herself awake. We got the 50/50 even though she was a little young because we liked the idea of zipping off the wings when she got older. I also agree with Cassandra about the Rock n' Play. https://www.amazon.com/s?k=love+dream+swaddle&adgrpid=XXX-XXXX5&hvadid=XXX-XXXX06&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=XXX-XXXX&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t1&hvqmt=e&hvrand=XXX-XXXXXXX-XXXX&hvtargid=kwd-2XXX-XXXX1&tag=hydsma-20&ref=pd_sl_2hmf7ur4f7_e

  • Jackie
    Sep 27

    At night we change her, put the swaddle on (arms out) and then feed her. Room is dark, white noise and we are in rocker. This process is usually 45-60mins when she’s finally asleep (which I don’t find to be that long). So she usually sleeps 830-5 give or take. It’s not during the night we have issues with wanting to be held or not sleeping. It’s during the day. I have the graco everyway soother with removable rocker (which she only likes every once in a while). The other night she slept 930pm-715am and didn’t go down for nap until 130pm-3pm which ended up being her only nap for the day and if she wasn’t held she would fuss. I guess it could be gas (even though she burps and farts ALOT). My husband has gotten her in the bad habit of not burping in the middle of the bottle, now if you take the bottle and try to burp her before it’s gone she goes crazy!! His reasoning is “well she doesn’t have any hard time burping after the bottle.” I did just purchase the auto rock n play and it’ll arrive TODAY!! Hopefully this will work. Thank you!

  • Jenn
    Sep 27

    Do the same routine at nap. I do book, in her swaddleup, turn on white noise/lullaby, rock for a minute, then in her crib drowsy but awake. That allows her to learn to self-soothe and know how to fall asleep on her own. The only thing that changes is sometimes I give her a bottle if it is time, and other times we just use a pacifier.

  • Nesh
    Sep 28

    We used Merlin Magic Sleepsuit and it worked for us. We got it from amazon.

  • Lea
    Sep 29

    My kids were all milk protein intolerant and once milk was eliminated life was so much better. They told me it was reflux but it didn’t stop with the meds (it did lessen the crying) so if you’re nursing try eliminating milk. The rock and play worked well for my kids. Good luck momma hope it works out.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 01

    It's simple, hold your baby

  • Jenn
    Oct 01

    @Anonymous, no offense but that is not a solution for anyone and sounds super judgmental. No one can hold their baby all day, even if babywearing, and there is no reason to judge a mom who wants to be able to put her baby down without always hearing crying.

  • Jackie
    Oct 01

    Thank you Jenn I do appreciate that. You are correct that’s not a solution!! @Anonymous I absolutely adore my baby and all the snuggles but the house isn’t going to clean itself or the dinner cook itself. I hold my little one as much as I possibly can!

  • Brittany
    Oct 05

    Swaddle blankets are the best!!! I heard that once they can start turning/rolling to be very careful. I have a rock n play also that vibrates but they have ones that move it’s definitely a life saver. My son has acid reflux so i deal with that on occasions. Hope it works out for you

  • Sam
    Oct 07

    My son did this and it turned out he was lactose intolerant. I stopped breast feeding and switched to lactose free formula and he was a new person!