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Custody

My ex is trying to get custody over my daughter. We were never married and he’s not even on the birth certificate. How long does this process take? He has anger issues can I request him go get help before taking my daughter? I’ve called and asked a couple attorneys and family law services but I’m still waiting for a response back.

  • Yeli
    Sep 24, 2018

    Omg girl you should get a good lowyer tell him about that he has anger issues and if theres any way he can get classes for angermangmet because im a mom and we moms always want the best for our kids im so sorry your going thu this 💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • Kayla
    Sep 25, 2018

    Have you gone through anything like that? Will they make do that?

  • Caitlin
    Sep 25, 2018

    Look up your states parenting agreement. If he’s not on the birth certificate he should have to file for paternity before he can have parenting time with your child. Once paternity is established he’ll have to pay child support, but you’ll have to give him at least the minimum amount of time. Have you called the police or have any documented cases of his anger? If not, I don’t think a judge would require anger management classes. Can you tell I’m a single mom?! My mama bear instincts are fierce, and it is SO hard to watch my son leave with his dad, but it’s the reality of our situation.

  • Kayla
    Sep 25, 2018

    He’s never hit anyone. So I can’t really call the cops on him. But I’m afraid of the mental abuse that my daughter might go through. Have you gone through this? How long does it normally take? Lol yes I can tell. Yeah my mama instincts really kicked in. He wanted my to let him take my daughter to his gfs moms house. Like really?

  • Niki
    Sep 30, 2018

    Been in this same situation. My daughters father and I were never married and we broke up when I was 6 months pregnant because of his anger issues, verbally abusive. He was never around after we broke up not at the birth and not on the birth certificate. A few months after she was born he wanted to see her, I allowed him to by coming over to my place when other people were around so there wouldn’t be a chance for him to cause a scene. He then served me court papers to get custody. I got a lawyer, since I have no idea how the court system worked. It’s a long process, we first had to go to an orientation about custody, we then had to go to a county mandated mediation, where we spoke about how we felt about each other, we made a patenting plan and since the court likes proof for things, it’s all just she said he said to them. So it’s hard to state a case. They made him do 60 hours of anger management classes. And same for co parenting classes. In the beginning the judge ordered supervised visitation at a public place, so we met at the mall play place and he got to spend time with her while I watched for a few hours. Then after a few months it changed to unsupervised visits and he got to take her to his house for 6 hours during the day. 6 months after that it was overnight visits, and he only gets her 3 weekends a month. The rest of the time she is with me. She is 3 years old now, and every time she gets back from his house I always ask her if she had fun, was anyone mean to her, etc. I am always going to worry about her, it’s our motherly instinct, and she loves going to visit him. So I have to put our past relationship aside and be positive for her. I hope it all works out for you in the long run, 💕💕💕