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Anyone have stories on custody fights? Is it possible to win full custody if there is no abuse present? There is no abuse present but when it comes to the children, ex doesn’t do anything in terms of education, medical, hair cuts, cutting fingernails, and is terrible at communicating never replies back first time. Thank you

  • Anonymous
    Jun 25, 2019

    Get everything in writing & use a lawyer. A lot of judges will still award at least partial custody to any parent who shows interest in their child & is not being abusive.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 25, 2019

    If the ex has no abusive history yet shows even some interest in spending time w/ their kids, they will be awarded custody in some form. A healthy relationship with two parents only benefits the child. Just remember that. Good luck.

  • Aria
    Aug 26, 2019

    Im going through that myself. I live in Cali and in Cali, courts tend to rule for joint custody especially when the child is young like mine who is two years old. I’m filing for joint custody which means both of you make the decision on the child’s welfare and that you more likely cannot leave your city without the other’s approval but the key point is that I will have physical custody which means my child is with me and he visits. Basically, I have the burden of caring for our child which will be difficult but seeing as I do everything now, it makes no difference, just that I won’t have to live with him and clean up after my soon to be ex. So again, joint custody but with physical custody under me. Its best for our child but truly I would rather have full custody and he can visit anytime but unfortunately mine is fighting me with custody. Augh, legal battles are costly. $5-6k just to hire a lawyer to file and can rack up to $50k depending on the fight. I wish my soon to be ex just grows up and realize all this fighting doesnt hurt me but hurt our child; well it is hurting my bank account so I guess he wins in that aspect.

  • Michelle
    Oct 29, 2019

    They will give joint custody even if its an infant