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Custody

Anonymous

I’m sons father wants to have custody of him ( 2 years old) because I don’t want to be with him anymore. What are the chances of him winning in court when I’m a perfect good mother ?? Any encouraging stories out there?? I’m just so scared of actually going thru with it.

  • JJ
    Oct 14, 2018

    Full or shared custody? Is he an absent father? Is there a reason he would be unsafe with his father? What is the reasoning you don’t want him to see his dad? Is there a reason they would take custody away from you?

  • Jessica
    Oct 14, 2018

    I just went through it. Majority of the time it goes to the mother but I settled with joint custody but I have the power of decision making and primary residency. You can propose a schedule of who has him when and try to agree on it. It may be hard to get full custody without showing he's an unfit father. I had a lot that showed my son's father to be irresponsible and lack of judgement and still got joint. Now he has him every other weekend, every other Monday, and every other Thursday. Pretty good schedule and I have him more. If you ask for joint but you have the power of decision making your son's father might settle because he will think he has some power due to it being joint but in the end it's all you. I hope this helps. PS. I recommend getting a real lawyer not a public defender. Mine did nothing the first three times and my new one got my ex to agree to what I wanted the first time he rep me.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 15, 2018

    Thanks girl! Yes it helps a little, I honestly want joint custody, I’m perfectly fine with that. I was willing to switch off every week and have our son an equal amount of time without having the court involved but I guess he has something to prove and didn’t wanna do that. I feel like maybe he’s bluffing about going to court so I stay with him but I’ve really had enough of him.