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Your husband needs to compromise with you. When he says “be patient” you need to ask him what type of timeline he sees in his head. Patient for 6 more months, 1 year, 5 years (jk) but what does he mean? And if the 22 year old isn’t contributing financially you need to have a talk with that one. And the chronically unemployed kid needs to contribute in other ways (chores around the house and spending time with the little ones so you and dad can have alone time). They’re way to old for a free ride and you have to explain to your husband that it’s actually for their own good. They need to mature. Also asking the 22 year old to pay rent (some portion) can also help her gain the confidence to move out if she can she that she’s able to budget and stuff. Good luck!