Dad doesn’t understand how toddlers work
Husband does a lot around the house (minus kitchen), and I do most of the parenting and anything related to the kitchen. During an argument I realized he doesn’t understand how a 15mo old thinks. He says she only wants what she wants and he thinks it’s wrong/he can’t always Give her what she wants. She should want what dad wants. So, She is whining for me but I’m cleaning tub because we had some ants in there recently. I’m yelling at him to do something/help me out bc he’s lying in bed getting ready for bed and I haven’t had a moment to myself all evening yet. He finally grabs her and she keeps crying because she wants me. He turns on the TV. I yell at him for being a lazy parent (whenever he’s alone with her in the house I find him with the tv on). We try to limit tv and he uses it as a tool. He says, she doesn’t want me, she doesn’t want to play, she only wants you and I can’t reason with her, so I turn on the tv. How can I get him to actually parent her? I act like a nanny so then she never spends time with him, and then she never wants him, and I can’t get a moment to myself. Husband goes to the gym 2x on weekends and I have a 15 minute wax appointment for my eyebrows and he insists on coming with me/bring baby. How do I change this vicious cycle we are in? He just doesn’t get it. He wishes he could reason with her but he can’t (yet) and I’m tired of feeling like a nanny.