Dad is his favorite... and it’s clear why
I’m a SAHM to a 2 year old. For the past month he’s been acting like this: When dad is home, he acts like he’s deathly afraid of me. Prefers dad to change his diaper, hold him or cuddle with him. Dad has to persuade him to let me do stuff for him (change his diaper, bath, etc). When dad isn’t home, it’s normal. Since I’m home with him all day and even when dad is home - I do all the childcare (includes medicine giving, sucking snot out, saline drops, cutting nails, cleaning ears, teeth brushing... all the things kids hate) and disciplining (mini time outs, saying no, taking him away from all the “fun” but dangerous stuff). I do raise my voice with him some times when I shout “stop” and “no” or “that’s bad”. So I get why he doesn’t like me. I feel like when we are by ourselves he just tolerates me until dad gets home. I take him out to fun places and the parks. Dad never likes to take him out because he’s so drained from work. I enjoyed the break for a little bit but now it’s becoming heartbreaking. I talked to my husband about taking part more in the disciplining but he never follows through on what he says. Also on his days off.. we never seem to leave the house. I try to get him to go out with us together as a family but it’s always complaint after complaint (from my husband) so I gave up on that. Since our home is babyproofed for our son, he is never in an environment where he needs to listen to us. So where does my husband get his chance to be anything but the fun and kind parent? Just ranting and also hoping to hear that this is just a very short phase. I don’t think I can take several years of this before he starts to appreciate what I do for him.