Dads please read
This is a question for working dads. My husband works full time, I also work but definitely not as many hours as he does. On the days he works I spend my day cleaning the house, taking care of the kids, making dinner and just basic life needs. When I go to work I always have to make sure he has what he’s going to need for the night for him and the kids. If I don’t make dinner before I go into work at 6pm he won’t make dinner he’ll order a pizza. Occasionally that’s fine but not every time I work which is usually weekends. When I get home in the morning my house is trashed. Toys, trash, dishes just a huge mess. So then I end up cleaning after I get home at 6am. I’ve tried talking with him about the house and every time it’s it looked like this before you left. I’ve even gone as far as taking pictures before leaving the house and still he tells me I made the mess or just didn’t clean. Do you as a working husband or dad help out with daily chores? Also when it comes to the kids I feel like I do everything. If our toddler needs a bath he doesn’t stop what he’s doing I do it, when I come home from work I get all the kids up ready for school, make breakfast, take our toddler to preschool. All while atleast a few days during the week he’s sleeping and doesn’t have to be at work. If we need something from the store he refuses to stop on his way home and says he needs to relax. That’s his answer for everything he needs to relax. I’ve quit my old job because he said he didn’t want to go to work then come home and deal with the kids on his days off. I feel like he’s very selfish and I’ve told him this he doesn’t think he’s selfish because he goes to work outside of the house more than I do. What are some good ways to address these issues? It’s causing issues In my marriage along with other things. Like he won’t go to the kids birthday parties because he doesn’t like my parents or doesn’t want to be around his brothers. It’s hard to explain to your kids and I’m tired of covering for him saying he’s at work when people ask why he’s not at birthdays, thanksgiving or even Christmas. Am I crazy to feel like this is not normal?