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Dating after divorce

Anonymous

I have been divorced twice, with one child from each marriage. My kids are 4 and 7. I have been through extensive therapy to determine why I keep choosing the wrong type of personality traits in a partner, as well as my own issues, and after 2 years I believe I’m finally ready to find the right person. I’m very concerned that I won’t be able to find someone who will be willing to handle dealing with two different ex-husbands/fathers in my life. I am also able to accept that I may just need to wait until my children are 18 to find someone else since I have a complex situation. I know that I would have a hard time dating someone who had a situation like mine. Do you think it’s even possible to find someone after all of this? My main priority is definitely my kids, although my therapist and several friends keep telling me I’m allowed to find happiness with someone and move on, I just don’t know that I’ll be able to do that.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 12

    I have two kids from two different relationships. My second is from a failed marriage. I found my now fiancé without looking for him. We just met one day, over a shared interest. Started talking & turned out we shared a lot of the same interests. We started dating. Fell in love, got together. I introduced my kids to him 7 months later & it’s been almost 5 years now that we’ve been together. It’s does get stressful with the ex, only one ex is still in the picture (other dad is a dead beat so I don’t let him know about our whereabouts). He gets jealous sometimes, gets resentful (he has no prior kids). It takes work & communication. You will find love again!

  • Anonymous
    Aug 13

    Thanks, that’s so nice to hear you found someone without even looking! And gives me hope! I just can’t imagine someone willing to deal with 2x the pickups/dropoffs, texts/calls, stress, jealousy, etc. ☹️

  • Anonymous
    Sep 13

    Yes! Don’t lose hope! You will find someone, there’s over a billion guys in this world. There is someone for you & your kids💕 Maybe don’t let him in on all the 411 regarding the dads. I am very open with my fiancé about my ex on everything. But I’ve noticed he does get jealous & insecure sometimes, so I keep some stuff to myself.