Anonymous

Dating my husband?

My husband and I have been together for 8 years. After some health issues and now having our little girl, I feel as though our marriage has lost its spark. I love my husband and have tried to talk to him about this and inevitably, I always feel bad for bringing it up... He doesn’t really like to talk about his feelings and it seems as though he doesn’t often like to open up to me like he used to. I’ve heard that dating your husband helps rekindle that spark. Any dating suggestions, ideas, or advice?

  • Anonymous
    Jun 02

    https://www.gottman.com/blog/build-love-maps/ Look up and try Love Maps. Good luck 🙂

  • Anonymous
    Jun 05

    So I don’t know how old your kids are or how much babysitting help you have, but my kids are young and I have zero family around. So we have done a few at home versions: 1) we would do a puzzle together and answer dating questions, I loved it. I learned so much about my husbands past, his opinions, and his needs emotionally and sexually. 2) we play video games together sometimes, there are some great games that allow time for conversation but also are easy enough for a newbie like me to pick up but challenging for him. 3) we pick one night a week, usually Saturday, where we either pre-prep a special meal or use a gift certificate to order out (my hubby will run out and get it or cook it while I put the kids to bed), and then we talk while we eat and usually after, sometimes we put on a movie or we “go to bed” early. I hope these ideas help.

  • Keven
    Jun 09

    Get him the book “Dating your wife” by Justin buzzard.

  • Sara
    Jun 16

    We designate a weeknight (if it’s weekends, it always seems to get pushed) as “date night”. Every week. We do Thursdays. We don’t always go out and it doesn’t have to be anything fancy, but that night after our son goes to bed is just for us (no talking about stuff that needs to get done, etc.). We also have a book of questions from the guy who wrote The Five Love Languages, I think it is called Questions for Couples. They always kick off great conversations we wouldn’t have thought of!