Daycare daily reporting

My 16 mo started daycare last week. Besides not going so well (which was expected), I am actually a bit upset. - I have no updates during the day, no photos, no info - at the end of the day, when I pick her up, the only things that the teachers tell me are related to eating, napping and pooping. Am I being unreasonable thinking that I should get more info on what she does exactly, and how she is during the day? I stayed at home with her before so this transition from 50photos a day/ knowing what my child does every minute to 0 news is brutal. Thank you

  • Traci
    Sep 15, 2018

    My daycare doesn’t have an app like some of these other parents but about once a month they send home photos of the events the kids do and specific ones of your child. We also have a wall of events and I can usually find some pictures of my daughter on it. It is very hard to stop knowing everything but the workers can’t logically keep every parent individually updated. See if your child’s class has a newsletter covering the topics they will be learning that week. I’ve found that helps me to picture what my daughter is doing based on the schedule I have. Another thing is build a relationship with your child’s teachers. Mine know how much I miss her and try and give me little updates about her day and how she did when I come to pick her up. I let them know when she’s had a rough night or if we are moving or we have something important coming up so they can track reasons she may not be behaving as usual and they let me know how each day went.

  • Susan
    Sep 15, 2018

    I've been lucky that our place uses an app that facilitates them sending photos throughout the day. This is for all kids, not just babies. While some teachers are more snap happy than others I get (bare minimum) three photos a day for the youngest who is almost 2 and at least 1 a day for the 4 year old, and honestly in his last class we got about 6 a day so I would say the change is way more about classroom management differences than age. Plus we get weekly lesson plans and menus in our e-mail. So really, I'd say if that's the kind of transparency you want, it's definitely out there, even for toddlers and beyond. I like feeling part of their day and seeing the cute moments I'd otherwise miss. Some of the pictures are among my favorite pictures of them. We've always had this so I don't know if I can say what's typical for a center but it's definitely out there and appreciated by me. We miss out on that time...it's totally normal to want more than just a diaper log.

  • Caroline
    Sep 15, 2018

    Thank you ladies for your feedback. Our daycare doesn’t have any kind of app. It’s really old school and we only get a paper at the end of the day telling me what she ate, when she pooped. I am feeling very frustrated not knowing more. They also have a column with activities and only check the type of activity (ex: music, art) but I have no information on what they have done exactly.

  • Caroline
    Sep 15, 2018

    I asked one of the teachers last week about getting pics. The first 3 days, she was sending me 2/3 pics of my daughter from her cellphone and then stopped. I know my LO was cranky at the end of the day but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve to be taken in photo.

  • Jessica
    Sep 15, 2018

    You can always just ask. Some day cares do not allow employees to take pictures and send it to parents, but if you connect with a teacher then they may do that for u.

  • Kellie
    Sep 15, 2018

    If your number one priority is to get pictures and constant updates then you should switch daycares. I personally wouldn’t go to a daycare, where the teachers are forced to log all of this information for each child and send constant updates. That’s not how they want to or should be spending their time. I judge my daycare based on the fact that my child loves his teachers and being at school.

  • Caroline
    Sep 16, 2018

    Hi Kelly, it’s not really about having constant updates and get pictures, it’s more about having information on how she is and feels. She is only 16 mo... how can we tell she loves her teachers and being at school

  • Kellie
    Sep 16, 2018

    It sounds like they are giving you quite a bit of information. From your posts, it sounds like you need more, so my advice would be to switch daycares or better yet, get a nanny. I went from having a nanny who I could text all day and get lots of pictures from because it’s 1:1 care to a daycare that provides very limited information on daily activities. It’s hard on the parents for sure, but I truly believe that it’s better that the teachers focus on the kids throughout the day. It’s definitely a philosophy that some daycare have and others don’t - You should be with a daycare that’s more in line with what’s important for you.

  • Cathy
    Sep 17, 2018

    Could you call them during the day?

  • Satara
    Sep 18, 2018

    So I had to change daycares due to us moving. The daycare my boys were previously at had cameras so I could see them whenever I logged onto my app. The one they're at now is a bit more old school so they haven't adapted to any new technology. I know I won't get many updates since my youngest is 2 (my other son started kindergarten so that's been another adjustment) but I'd love to at least know what he's doing throughout the day. The new daycare teacher did send photos and videos through an app that they advertise but that only lasted a few days when he first started there. I'm considering moving them to another daycare (oldest attends before/after care) if a spot opens because I'm used to certain things that they're just not providing. With so much going on and since I have to work, I'm more comfortable being able to see them with my own eyes. And they need interaction with other kids so getting a nanny doesn't make sense.

  • Emilia
    Sep 18, 2018

    Give yourself some time to get to know the teachers. You know your child, and you can usually tell at drop off and pick up if she is happy and likes her teachers. The daycare my son (11 months) is in doesn’t send pictures or have an app, but it’s the one place that he doesn’t get upset at all when I leave (vs even at home if I go out without him) and he’s laughing and playing 95% of the time when I get there to pick him up. Personally, I’d rather chat with his teacher at the end of the day and hear how it went overall. Obviously they contact me if something serious happens, but otherwise I know his days will have ups and downs and I am better able to focus on him when I get all that information at once, in person, rather than sprinkled throughout the workday.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 18, 2018

    I agree that they are giving you quite a bit of information. My daycare does the same where I get a sheet at the end of the day that shows naps, feedings, and diaper changes. They also include a quick summary of the day, for example, "Today we learned about the fall and how the leaves change colors and fall to the ground." It's always something really simple, and general, and easy for the teachers to write. Perhaps you can ask for something like that? Other than that, I think you will see in time that they do put art on the walls, they do put pictures on the walls, so you can get glimpses of the day then. The biggest thing I can suggest for you to see whether your child loves daycare is to occasionally show up at random times to see what he/she (and the teachers!) are doing when you get there. I've "surprised" my daycare several times by coming maybe an hour early, or half an hour early. Sometimes my son (7 months) is playing with his friend (yes, he has a best friend there!) and sometimes I've walked in on them actually cuddling him and singing to him. But, you really don't want the daycare to be taking pictures constantly. Imagine if they were doing that for all the kids, there would be no time to actually engage!! So, if you're looking for constant updates, I do think you need one-on-one care, like a nanny or au pair, and not a daycare. You have to think of daycare as more school-ish than caretaker-ish.

  • Andrew
    Sep 18, 2018

    I don’t recall where I obtained the information; an article mentioned that in states with legally required ratios of teacher to students, when a teacher is using a mobile device, they aren’t counted in the ratio because they may not be paying full attention to the class, etc. IMHO, I prefer the teachers to engage with the children without having their phones out. I’d rely on them to pass along the pertinent information at the end of the day. I’d establish a rapport with the teachers and tell them my expectations (hopefully this would occur before the child attends). YMMV.

  • Shalay
    Sep 18, 2018

    Tell them about the tadpole app. My daycare uses it and greit's great. I get to see how he did during the day it does videos, photos and logs for the care

  • Allison
    Sep 18, 2018

    I wouldn’t want my child’s caregivers buried behind cameras and social media. I want them interacting with my child. It may feel like it takes a minute to snap and send a pic, but multiply that by all the children by how many pics per day you are expecting. It adds up. It is hard to detach from our child but it gets easier with time. I always make it a point to chat with the caregiver at the end of that day. How did things go today? We’re there any issues? And maybe another pointed question about an issue on my radar. It builds rapport and a parternship between you and the caregiver...which in turn builds trust. Good luck, mama!

  • Vicki
    Sep 24, 2018

    My daycare doesn't have an app that I know of, but I get a note every day telling me how they did that day. What they ate, how they played & what they worked on learning. Any issues if they had them etc. I used to be worried about them but after we all got into the swing of things, I don't mind it as much.

  • Kaitlyn
    Sep 30, 2018

    This sounds like a normal daycare. I don’t get pics or updates throughout the day but when I pick him up or drop him off I’ll ask how everything was, how he’s doing is he eating ok or hungry etc. our first day I got a picture and a text, which I really enjoyed, but after that just the normal paper at the end of the day that records his diapers and food etc. If he does something notable they always tell me verbally when I pick him up or they write it on his sheet. My biggest advice would be to ASK QUESTIONS. If they can’t comply with just chatting and telling you about your daughter then search for another place

  • Abbey
    Sep 30, 2018

    Our daycare has a handwritten chart we can check when we pick them up each day.

  • Erin
    Apr 11

    My son just started daycare two weeks ago. It has been painful. I only get 1-2 pictures of him a day and he's always looking down. My son is the happiest baby ever and I find it disturbing that he's always looking down and never smiling at the camera. I know it's hard to say this especially since our instincts as mothers tell us to keep our babies with us at all times but . . .Go with your instinct. If you feel something isn't right then it probably is and try another daycare. I'm going to give this facility another week or two while I look at anther daycare. If I like the other daycare better? I'm moving my son. I'm not impressed by the current situation. If you aren't impressed find another place.