Anonymous

Daycare pickup while pregnant again?

I feel a little silly asking this, but how did you handle daycare pickup during your third trimester & after birth of your [second, third, etc] child? I’m 32 weeks along and have an 18 month old who goes to daycare. Due to our work schedules I do drop off and pickup, but it’s harder every day to literally PICK UP the toddler to put them in/out of the car seat, let alone maneuvering their lunch bag etc and playing until my spouse gets home in the evenings. Any tips or advice appreciated!

  • Tiffany
    Dec 04

    I taught my kid to climb into the car seat with just a little help from me. I hold under his arm pits to keep him from falling and he does the rest! He loves doing it himself, but when he doesn't want to sit down, it does make things harder. He was 23 months, so 18 might be a little early, but maybe worth a shot?

  • anonymous mom
    Dec 04

    ^^same. I don’t have two kids, but I did drop off and pickup for my neighbors toddler during my pregnancy and played with him till she got home from work. I taught him to climb into his seat with just a little help from me. He also got stickers if he carried his own backpack to the car. Playing at night was not hard...I just did crafts and set him up in a booster chair so I could sit at the table or put my legs up when the going got tough.

  • Sara
    Dec 04

    I think 18 months old is a bit too early for knowing how to get in and out of the car seat themselves (speaking as the mom of an 18 month old who is definitely not capable of this). I think as far as how to manage in these final weeks, can your partner switch around their schedule to do dropoff and pickup for the remaining time (or can you extend the daycare hours to better match their work schedule)? With the holidays coming up it's not THAT MUCH time even before the baby comes and can make a big difference for you and your physical health. If not, maybe you can look into getting a mother's helper to help you with at least some of it. They don't have to be very experienced with kids if you're around showing them what to do. Maybe a college student home for winter break? As far as post-baby, I always found it easier to put the newborn in a sling/carrier to be able to run after my older one. I felt up for going out and about with my newborn this way as early as a few days after birth... second child you just don't sweat it as much :-) Keep them in that carrier close to you so they don't pick up any daycare germs.

  • Tiffany
    Dec 04

    Sara reminded me, our daycare said they could help get toddler in and out of the car if needed. It's a large daycare, so they usually have one or two people floating around. Coming in earlier would help, when they have a more flexible teacher/child ratio.