Death of a grandparent

I just lost my mom 2 weeks ago and she was the main care giver for my son since he was born. The past few months I was off from work taking my mom to her radiation and chemo treatments. So he was used to me being home. He already had separation anxiety from me before. We unfortunately lost her to a different medical condition and it was sudden. I haven't gone back to work yet but will be shortly after I find a new daycare system for him. He is 21 months, my question is, does he sense something has happened? He doesn't really talk just yet but he will cry such sad tears every so often and I hug him and tell him it will be ok and he calms down. I have shown him pictures of her and he smiles which melts my heart because I don't want him to forget her. I just don't know if he's too young to know grief?

  • Vicki
    Nov 04

    I am so sorry for your loss. I think your son definitely notices your mom’s absence, though he will not be able to understand why she isn’t around. And missing someone you love who is no longer there is a form of grief. When he he is sad, he is processing those feelings. You are doing everything right. Continue to let him work through those feelings, keep showing him her pictures and talk about her and how much she loved him. Create permanent memories for him as you tell the same stories of moments they shared together. And keep giving lots of hugs and cuddles. You both need them. 💗

  • Amanda
    Nov 04

    Thank you ❤

  • Anonymous
    Nov 04

    Just because he can't talk, doesn't mean he doesn't know what you are saying. He won't understand she is gone and not coming back, but definitely talk to him about being sad, and it's okay to be sad. And he also probably senses your stress and sadness. My Dad died when I was 21, my son never met him, but he is 3.5 and he will talk about him all the time, and constantly wants to know why he didn't meet him, it's rough, but he needs to know about him

  • Amanda
    Nov 04

    Thank you. Yeah it's rough, I would be probably be worse if I didn't have him to keep me busy but I do feel like he senses for sure even if I try as hard as I can to not be sad in front of him. I just want to make sure he's ok and make him feel better.

  • Tiffany
    Nov 08

    I am so sorry for your loss. I felt this. My mom is battling cancer right now. She’s on chemo therapy. I have 4 kids. They’re all extremely close to her. They always want to be with her. Your son is feeling her loss. Just hug and comfort him as much as you can. He needs you and you need him. You will help each other grieve and heal. So sorry again