Anonymous

Depressed

Any ideas that could help me out this slump I’m in? My husband has this company Christmas party that we are invited to and I was trying on all the clothes I had and NOTHING FIT. All I could do was cry because I never had this problem before I was pregnant. I know it sounds dumb but it’s been three months now shouldn’t my body be going back to normal? I work out and eat healthy now and still nothing. 😓

  • Christa
    Dec 05

    It’s totally normal my dear to have nothing fit that used to pre pregnancy! Take this opportunity to go get a couple new things that fit you and your body NOW! Give it time, you will be back in your pre pregnancy clothes sooner than you think, but I was the same way. I fit in every before I was pregnant, I never questioned something fitting my body, and then 3 months after my son was born, I couldn’t fit in a damn thing! Enjoy your body now, and pretty soon those clothes you fit into before your baby was born, will be fitting again! Don’t get rid of anything, my hubby had to convince me not to get rid of anything but had me go get things that did fit- not a huge amount of clothes because pretty soon everything you buy will be too big!! Your body will take up to a year to get back to its normal self! You will get there!! Stay positive and be kind to yourself, you just grew a human being in your body! Think of how amazing that is!!!! 💕💕 good luck and you’ll find something amazing to fit your body!!

  • Kara
    Dec 05

    You are totally fine. My baby is 6 months, and I actually weigh more than I did when I was pregnant. Our bodies go through so much. I have heard from a lot of doctors it takes a year to get back. So don't be harsh on yourself. Keep being healthy and it will happen. Just like every baby is different, every woman's body is different. So try not to compare and give yourself grace. Hang in there!

  • Anna
    Dec 05

    Thanks for this. I’ve been feeling horrible about myself lately too. 😭

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    Thank you so much ladies. It feels good to know it’s normal and that I will be back in my regular clothes eventually 😊

  • Marlen
    Dec 05

    Oh my i felt like my body was just a blob. But i love to dance, although my core was weak i had to do something that made me feel good. It was hard to even try, it wasnt the same. It didnt last long and then. I tried yoga for my back. Later i began to go out and be okay with myself. What im trying to say is alternate with what you love to do. Your happiness is not your image but who you are. As a mother you lose yourself. Do what you love and your self perspective slowly shapes itself back to normal. I was so depressed and angry. Now im happy, cheeful, playful, willing and much more. You wont even believe how lost of a person you were once you remind yourself who you are.

  • Elena
    Dec 05

    It's not always the the wheight gane. Our body changes and it's for ever our feet might grow our hips might grow. I'm pettitt before pregnancy I was 98lb 9months pregnant I was 126. I'm now back to 100lb and I still will never fit in my xs clothes. (18month after birth) I've lost wheight and I have been to the gym I'm healthy and I just got used to the fact that my body will never be the same. That does not mean that you should feel bad about your body. I get upset from time to time but we must remember our bodies change by age by pregnancy we will never be the same for too long. We embrace it and move on as long as you are making the progress and you are healthy get you some nice new clothes and rock your mom body because it went through a lot to make a little human be proud of your self and your body

  • Jackie
    Dec 05

    9 months in 9 months out 😭

  • Julie
    Dec 05

    I lost all my pregnancy weight and then some within 8 weeks of delivery. I felt awesome and like a superstar. Then I went back to work and had to start exclusively pumping which tanked any free time. I started to gain it back. Then my daughter turned a year and I stopped pumping but still haven’t fixed the free time issue. The weight just keeps piling on. I now weigh more than I did before I got pregnant. I finally told myself that if I can do nothing else, I can at least find a way at to do 30 squats, 30 push ups (knees on the floor, come on! I’m not superwoman!), and 30 crunches every day for 30 days. Well today was day 2 of that promise to myself and so far so good:). Let’s hope it can continue because somethings gotta give!! We’re all in this together, mama. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’ll find your groove eventually. And hopefully I will too:)

  • Brianne
    Dec 05

    Same exact place mama! 3 1/2 months postpartum and I have ~14 lbs til my pre pregnancy weight. I also have my company Christmas party this Saturday and can’t find a thing. I’ve been stalled here for a while, and my husband keeps saying I look amazing but that doesn’t help at all. I am also depressed about it,but I am right there with you and I think it’s totally normal! The biggest thing for me isn’t even the weight but my ribs have expanded and have not budged since. It’s hard to go from a small frame to something that won’t shrink. The best thing that has helped me when I went to a wedding last week was going and buying a beautiful dress that fits the body I currently have and looks great. I can’t afford to redo my whole wardrobe for every size, but having one outfit right now that I feel super confident in really helped.

  • Becca
    Dec 05

    I’m 7 months post and still weigh 50lbs more than I did pre pregnancy. I’ve only lost about 10lbs I eat healthy and work out but I don’t lose weight like I use to and it took a lot to feel comfortable about my body. It really helped me when I sat down and cried it out to my hubby and he always tells me the truth on how he sees my body. Sure I will never be a size 2 again but I love that because my hips got wider and I feel so much more like a woman. I know the process is slow but I know I will be in the shape I want to be before I know it.

  • Yopolos
    Dec 05

    Oh my god no! In my personal experience (3 babies in 3 yrs) my body refuses to drop any weight until 6 month post partum. I did finally reach prepreg weight after babies 2 & 3, but I think the bfing 500 calories a day helped me a lot. Your body is more beautiful now than it has ever been in its existence. Each part has more purpose than ever and you have more purpose than ever. You are sexy

  • Anonymous
    Dec 05

    I started my pregnancy at 160 and ended it at 180. I am now 130 pounds and clothes that fit me pre pregnancy still are too small now. My hips widened quite a bit. My chest got larger. My shape is just different. I know it can be discouraging for your clothes to not fit, but weight isn't the only factor. Your body did something amazing. Take the opportunity to get something new that you will feel confident in.

  • Lily
    Dec 05

    I had to get all new clothes after my baby. I kept all my old stuff thinking I would be able to wear it again....but no. Even though I only like 10 lb more than I was post baby. Nothing worked!!! Go out and get some new stuff....don’t think about the size you were before....because that just sucks. I was a medium/large.....now xl is what I like! You could keep your stuff for a little longer because you are only 3 months out.....but get some new stuff it will make you feel way better!:)

  • Anna
    Dec 06

    I went from a size 8 pre-first pregnancy to a size 12 first pregnancy. I gained 50 lbs. I already had large hips and have always had a butt. I had another pregnancy, lost 30 lbs before, but then lost the baby 5 months in. I gained 10 lbs due to depression, stress. Then I started my 3rd pregnancy and my baby is also 3 mos old. I’m now back to my 2nd pre-preggo weight and broke down and had to buy size 14 jeans. I’ve never been a size 14 in my life. It’s depressing, but hearing others’ stories does help a little. Thanks again for this post.

  • Emily
    Dec 06

    I gained almost 50lbs during pregnancy. 4 months post partum and I’m 3 sizes bigger and only lost about 15lbs. Although I look at myself in the mirror and am disappointed at times, I remind myself that I am so lucky to have carried and given birth to a beautiful, healthy baby. I also just focus on my bigger booty that my husband loves! : )

  • Val
    Dec 07

    Your body did something amazing, growing a baby! Weight gain is normal and it can take over a year to lose the weight. And even if we do lose the weight, like others have said, our body shapes have changed. It’s an adjustment but I urge you to celebrate the changes. Treat yourself to a new outfit that fits you perfectly the way that you are now. I went through the same thing, except it was nine months after giving birth and I was going to my husband‘s work Christmas party and absolutely nothing fit me. I had gained weight, and my bust was also much different, it still is almost 3 years later. I finally got rid of the jeans that don’t fit me and bought jeans that fit me now and I can attest that it feels great! Be gentle with yourself.

  • Marlen
    Dec 08

    Someone mentioned pumping. How can i forget! Breastfeeding really takes a lot. It is surprising how tired i would get after feeding.