Anonymous

Desperate For Advice

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and have a 2.5 year old that just learned how to open the door to his room and CONTINOUSLY leaves his room for hours on end at night leading to over tiredness from lack of sleep during the day and night and leading to two EXTREMELY exhausted parents -- especially right now with this virus outbreak and being home all day. We have tried consistently walking him back to his room... which honestly SUCKS being heavily pregnant, locking the doors (he has figured out how to unlock them), and giving up altogether... which obviously does not help. Can someone PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some tips or encouragement on how to nip this in the bud? My energy is completely zapped and I literally have nothing left to give.

  • Sarah
    Mar 24

    We have a baby gate on my toddler’s door, maybe that’s an option if you haven’t tried already?

  • PK
    Mar 24

    Door knob cover if possible and an ok to wake clock so they have a visual to when it is ok to get out of bed.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 24

    Be stern, don’t say a word. Walk back to bed repeatedly

  • Cathrene H.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Mar 24

    Have a schedule in place daily which would include 8a.m. wake up time, breakfast. an hour nap daily, after lunch. Keep your child busy before and after nap. Give him/her a bath after dinner, no sweets. Put him/her to bed nightly at 8p.m. read him/her a story very softly. I guarantee you sleep will come.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 24

    @Cathrene: I should have clarified that the issue is him staying in his bed/room. He falls to sleep fairly quickly at bedtime, but gets up repeatedly during the night.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 24

    We just got him down to bed and put a pool noodle in between the door knob and the wall so that the door knob can't turn. This should buy us time before getting a baby gate and a clock. Thanks to everyone for the suggestions.

  • Liza M.
    Mar 24

    I just went through this a few months ago with a daughter the same age along with a 6mo at home. Sometimes she came out so many times we had to literally sit by her door for an hour. We got her an okay to wake clock, which helped, but really it took about 2 solid weeks of leading back to bed with minimal interaction until my daughter stopped doing it. I think the novelty just wore off. She still does it at nap sometimes but we are very consistent and don't stray from the expectation. I also use the phrase "it's your job to stay in your room at night/for nap" and reassure her that she's not missing anything. I completely sympathize with you about this seemingly unending game. It is awful and exhausting. But it will end, and I hope this helps. Congrats on the new baby too!

  • PK
    Mar 24

    With the clock, it took us about a week. The doorknob cover worked but he kept screaming for us to come into his room to comfort him. We have a baby monitor that we can talk to him through so we just told him that he had to stay in bed until the light turned green. When the light turns green we would come in. After being consistent for a week it worked out really well for us

  • Christina
    Mar 26

    Put a child safety lock on the outside of the door

  • Olivia
    Mar 29

    What is a “wake clock” & how does it work for a 3 year old? My son is 3, he sleeps with us, but we would like to transition him to his bed bedroom. - He was very excited when we got his new bed. He said he was going to sleep there, but it only last an hour when he wanted to be back with us. We let him be back with us. He still sleeps with us. We love him very much. We enjoy he sleeping with us. He is our only child, we are not ready to have big & long cries... So... the problem is “us” not being totally ready to be without him, but we want him to start sleeping in his bedroom... Plus we are not ready to wake up many times at night for 1 or 2 weeks... (We are usually very tired from work) Any advice on how to solve this issue?

  • PK
    Mar 29

    @olivia - an ok to wake clock is just a visual alarm clock. The one we have turns red and green. Green for the time you set that’s ok for your child to wake you up. It also has a buzzer like a regular alarm but you can turn that off. Other than that, the light is red all night once you press the button to turn the alarm on. Every kid is different when it comes to transitioning into something new. Some times they get it right away and some times they don’t. For us it took about a week to reinforce this new thing. Every once in a while he lapses but we just remind him for a night or two... then he gets back to following the rules. But if you look at it in the long run, a week or two is nothing compared to a lifelong habit. But if you’re not ready to commit to this and be consistent, then it’s going to take longer than a week or possibly not work at all.