Posted in Mental Health, Postpartum Recovery, Pregnancy & Childbirth, Self Care

Did anyone get the baby blues or postpartum depression 6 months after?

I've been doing great, I feel like. Throwing a newborn into your life and everything is completely different. We have hit the 6 month stage, which has been amazing. Her personality has kicked in, she's learned to sit up and army crawl. But I think, personally, maybe I'm not doing so well. Tired, obviously. I have no desire to do anything, hang out with friends or family, clean, find a hobby, go to work, nothing. Is that just how you are supposed to feel? Is this life with a baby? Will it get better? Is it recommended I seek help?

  • Elizabeth
    Oct 31

    That is exactly how I started to feel after about 6 months. I wasn’t sure what was going on or why I felt that way and I just dragged myself on for months till finally I broke down and told my spouse everything that I was feeling, he put a lot of my irrational feelings to rest and lifted me up on the things I felt bad about. I also talked to some of my mom friends who related so much I was shocked and relieved. I started forcing myself to take care of myself by eating healthy, getting dressed every day even if I’m at home, and working out at least a couple times a week. I started to feel better. I told myself I had to be the best version of myself for myself and my family, my daughter would look up to me. I also reminded myself whatever I was going through was temporary, from not being able to continue school to my daughter teething. I did talk to my doctor as well who suggested talking to a therapist but I much preferred talking to other moms.

  • Megan
    Oct 31

    Yes!! I was amazed at how “well” I was doing with a colicky newborn who never slept, but once all the adrenaline wore off, YIKES. Are you getting sleep? I’m fairly sure that was the biggest drain on me was never getting more than two hours of sleep in a row. I also went and saw my doctor (I see an ND) and she tested my vitamin levels and I was way down. I’m not trying to Tom Cruise it with PPD, but maybe try making sure your basic sleep and nutrition needs are being met and then move forward from there. And honestly the best thing I ever did for myself was put time into finding myself a great general practitioner...naturopaths are great because they look at the whole health picture and spend a ton of time getting to know you. It has made any issue that comes up WAY easier to treat.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 31

    Yes to all of this. My own mom told me she never felt sad and that she was just happy all the time so it made me feel like I was doing something wrong or there was something wrong with me for feeling sad out of nowhere and wanting to cry at random times. A lot of it I realized later had to do with breastfeeding hormones and sleep deprivation. It is amazing what just one good night’s rest can do. See if your spouse can take over on weekends or if you can get a night nurse if that is feasible. Also, it’s ok to break down a little or do some self-care and talk to a counselor about how you feel.

  • Sarah
    Oct 31

    I myself am going through EXACTLY this— my daughter just turned 6mo. In hearing some of these above responses I’m saying to myself YES and YES! I was fine initially and now all of a sudden I’m SO tired and feeling so low all the time, and I have no clue why. I cry for no reason and get overwhelmed at the drop of a hat when initially I felt invincible. My anxiety about everything is sky high. My mom said being a SAHM was the greatest gift and said it was the happiest she’s ever been so I think that’s making me somehow feel worse about the fact that I feel lonely and a bit lost, both in wondering if I’m not being a good enough mom and also just myself in general. I forget who ME is because it’s always about my daughter. The whole achieving balance with my life deal has been the most difficult thing I’ve ever dealt with.

  • Marissa
    Oct 31

    I am so surprised how you forget about yourself....and everything else around you, including the hubby. Life is all about the baby. Sleep isn't really an issue. Baby goes to bed a 9 and than is up at 2 ish for a diaper but goes back to bed right away. And the hubby and I tag team as much as possible. As much as I love when the baby ONLY wants mommy, but my goodness it's tough when it's most of the time. I know it's temporary and as everyone says "it will get better" it sometimes is straining.

  • Marissa
    Oct 31

    I appreciate all the answers and what everyone is saying. It makes me feel better I am not the only one going through this.

  • Aye
    Oct 31

    I feel like people expect you to go through ppd in the beginning that sometimes they don’t realize it can hit anytime or last long. I read somewhere that our hormones are still heightened 18-24 after the baby. So you’re not the only one, let it out and vent to someone even if it’s here.

  • Christa
    Oct 31

    It sometimes won’t hit mommas til a year later. I went through a spell of it bad, my baby boy was 5ish months old and I lost my mind! I was mad at my husband because he got to work and I had to stay home. I wanted to divorce him, and he could go talk to adults and I was well stuck at home. And don’t get me wrong I love being a stay at home mom, and I did then too, it I just hated that he got to leave and I didn’t. After literally screaming at him for 5 hours, and him giving me 4 days to myself where he took baby for 4 days, I was able do what I needed to do to regroup my mind and heart. What I’m getting at here is, talk to your husband, your family, your support system and let them know what’s going on. And talk to your doctor too if you need too, you’re not alone and post partum is a normal thing and you aren’t alone in this. Give your husband baby, and go for a run, or go do something for you. Get out of the house- even if baby goes with you, and get some air out of the house!!!!!! Make sure you’re getting sleep, and stay eating well. Don’t stop your prenatal vitamins either, stay on those! Start a hobby too. I picked up gardening, and recovering an old bed of Roses- I put baby in a play pen in the yard, and do my thing- where I could see baby, and then that gave me the space with my baby still in sight! I don’t know if any of this helps, but it gets better I promise!!!