Differences in sexual desire?
My husband and I have always been a little switched from the stereotypical couple. I’m the one who constantly wants sex, and my husband doesn’t feel that it’s as important as other things in a marriage. In my personal opinion, a sexless marriage isn’t a marriage. For me, sex is a way to gauge how we are as a couple. If things are good, and we are communicating well and relatively content, we are having lots of sex. If things aren’t great, the opposite happens. He says for him, talking and cuddling are more important for him to feel close to me, for me, it’s sex. I’m not saying he never wants sex. But how do I make him see that it’s just as important to me as talking with one another and spending time with each other? We just seem to be doing an awful lot of TALKING lately. The spark didn’t go away after baby until now. And he’s 8 months old now. As far as I can tell, my husband just doesn’t really want sex anymore, and that’s a pretty big blow to my self-esteem and our relationship in general. He may feel like everything is fine, but I certainly don’t. We’ve talked about it, but I don’t think he really sees what’s happened the last few weeks.