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Discipline for 2 1/2 year old

Anonymous

What are some age appropriate ways to discipline a young toddler (2 1/2)? I understand ignoring bad behavior, but what if we say no and he continues to do something, like if it’s dangerous or destructive ? I’ve tried time out, raising my voice, ‘sending’ to his room, distracting with something else (FYI he cannot be distracted) - nothing is proving to be effective (a lot of the times he thinks it’s a game or just laughs). Any tips?

  • Emily
    Nov 18

    I do the corner. She use to walk back out but I’m just really persistent with it. She came out I put her back in till she stayed for a minute 2minutes (a minute per year). After I talk with her let her know what she did was bad etc. if she fought the process I explain her that it all would’ve been over a lot faster is she listened. It’s hard finding something that works! Just know you’re doing good and it takes so much patience. Also two is a funny age by funny I mean crazy and patience testing. It’ll get better!

  • Emily
    Nov 18

    Just too add one time when I first started the corner she stayed in there for like an hour I felt terrible. The next day it was going down that path again. So held her till she was calm put her back in the corner explained why and she magically stayed. That was my turning point! Every kid is different, you’ll find what works!

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18

    Thank you so much; this makes me feel better. I feel horrible and don’t know what the ‘right’ thing to do is! We just tried the corner today and it was exhausting for all of us. But we’ll try to stay persistent with it and see how it works out!

  • Emily
    Nov 18

    It definitely is exhausting! It’s gonna take some time. I actually got some good advice from a stranger in a store when I was at my last straw. (my daughter was screaming, biting, and pulling on me.) I just had no clue what to do anymore and voiced it I said told her(my daughter) I’ve tried everything! Idk what to do. This very sweet lady. Said “first time mom? Well have you ever thought trying everything was the problem? How long have you stayed true to one punishment? Kids needs stability even in punishment.” Best unwanted advice I ever got. I from then on stayed with one punishment. It took us awhile to figure out what work since we stuck to one punishment for a couple weeks. But now she knows she does something she’ll walk her butt to the corner. Sometimes she’ll still fight but not for as long.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18

    Sometimes unsolicited advice can turn out to be great - and at least she was sweet about it!! That’s what we’re trying - to be consistent in what we do, but like you said - it definitely takes time (and patience!) thank you so much! :)

  • Emily
    Nov 18

    Not a problem. I wish you the best of luck!

  • Melody
    Nov 18

    Redirection is great, but truly it depends on how much your child understands or how well they follow directions. Although all children follow a similar cognitive developmental pattern, some things, like the ones I mentioned above, dictate how one should discipline a young child like this. In addition to redirection, spending some solid, one on one time can curb undesired behavior.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18

    Thanks Melody! He really doesn’t misbehave that often, but it seems to come in waves when he does...haha.

  • Melody
    Nov 18

    Oh for sure. Just remember, although he's not as dependant on you as he was (and times it feels like he'll be driving a car tomorrow 😋) he is still veryyy limited in self control and that is absolutely normal! Honestly, I could have swore my first and only child (son) was going to be an axe murderer until he hit 5 years old 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️. Now, at almost 6, he is just the most kind and helpful boy. It's hard when they're little! You're doing a great job because the fact that you're worried and seeking different tactics, shows how much you care. 💓

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18

    Thank you so much! 😊