Posted in Pre-Teens, Blended Families

Does anyone have advice for a step-mom? I’m struggling with giving my step-daughter her first bras. I figured her mother would do it, but to no avail just like when my step-son went thru puberty, my husband and I had to do everything. Their mom was oblivious. However my stepdaughters developing, and after observing her play at school with her girlfriends I noticed she is the only one not wearing a bra. I don’t want her to get teased for not having a bra or for showing. I don’t want to overstep her mother, but if I don’t who will? Any advice?

  • LISA
    Apr 24, 2018

    How did the mother react with y’all doing everything for your stepson? It sounded like she just didn’t care. I think it would be awesome. I have a 14-yo, and she loves Victoria’s, but that comes a little later. 😊

  • Rachel
    Apr 24, 2018

    Maybe just ask the kid. I have 2 step daughters & 1 stepson. They live with us FT, and their mom isn’t around much. If they’re comfortable with you for stuff like that, then I’d just approach it like they were your own kids.

  • Kailey
    Apr 25, 2018

    I was at the store with my daughter and was just looking in that section. Then I asked if she wanted some. Worked fine. Took it one step at a time to get her comfortable talking to me

  • Kathie
    Apr 26, 2018

    I'd just take her on a special date and get her a bra. Better to put up with some rude texts than to have the daughter end up being made fun of or teased. Your daughter actually doesn't even have to mention it to her mom that she's wearing one. Not to sound mean, but if she's an alcoholic, is she really going to notice what her daughter is or isn't wearing?

  • Danielle
    Apr 28, 2018

    I had the worst step mom that didn’t care about what we needed and she was the only woman in my life at the time. I definitely would have appreciated a step mom that cares like you. It is something that still bothers me today that a woman could do that to a little girl who didn’t have her mom lol. So I think you’re awesome for caring so much. If mom doesn’t want to do it then you definitely should. It will mean a lot to your step daughter too. My aunt bought me my first bra. Lol. Your step daughter will remember that you bought her, her first too.

  • IndyDad
    Aug 03

    Hey...just came across this. How did it all work out? I am a single dad and my ex had drink and drug problems so it's fallen to me to buy my oldest daughter's first bra. Any good tips??