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Doesn’t care

My little girl is 26 months, and we started putting her in regular underwear but when she has An accident she does not seem to care. How do I help her realize going Pee pee in her underwear isn’t good without doing damage. She will go in the potty when I bring him to the bathroom and I sit down to but she doesn’t tell me when she Has to go and when she does go in her underwear it doesn’t seem to bother her.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 07

    Sounds like she’s too young. I’d wait a few months

  • PK
    Sep 07

    We started potty training my son in May when he was 28 months. He still doesn’t always tell us when he needs to go. We put him on a potty schedule because we noticed that he can hold it in for 2-3 hrs during the day (on the safe side). In June, I noticed that he started to shout at me as he ran into the bathroom when he needed to go. It was rare though since we kind of figured out his bathroom habits. Just until a couple days ago, he has started to come to us when he has to use the potty outside of his usual habits (about once a day). So I don’t know where you all are with your potty training journey, but for us, the verbalization that our son needs to go took some time to develop. I guess there are some kids out there that are great at learning how to do that quickly... but it’s also ok if that takes time. As far as teaching them that pee pee in underwear is not ok, you can have her help with cleanup - unless she’s like my son and enjoys cleaning up. Then you have to be stern and visually upset as you’re cleaning and have her watch you clean instead of going back to play like nothing happened. Try to ingrain that having an accident takes up more time than just using the potty. And keep repeating that “pee pee goes in the potty. We don’t pee in our undies, pee goes in the potty. Pee goes in the potty.” Hope this helped. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    Sep 07

    What do you do when she pees in her underwear? My son would do this and it took us a long time to realize he would do it for attention. A few weeks after his brother was born he had accidents all day long, until finally he peed himself during dinner, and instead of talking to him about it, and drawing attention to it, I just silently cleaned it up, and went back to dinner. When he realized he wasn't going to get extra attention for it he stopped. My son also didn't tell us he needed to go for almost a year. It wasn't that he wasn't ready, he is just beyond stubborn. He is also like a camel and can hold it forever, so we had to start telling him when to go. I would usually give him an option like 'do you want to go potty at home, or when we get to the store?' that way he always had a choice, but wasn't surprised by me suddenly demanding he go.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 07

    Have you tried going a day without undies? If she’s naked and pees on the floor it’s harder for her to ignore. 1. You can try and catch it and run her to the bathroom for association 2. You can have her clean up the mess on the floor

  • Lizzie
    Sep 07

    We potty trained my son around 22 months and it took a good 2 months before he could start telling us he has to go potty. We started with always taking him every hour/hour and a half just to help avoid accidents as well as take him before we leave the house or once we got to the park etc. He tells us he has to go now, but we still watch him and when he is showing signs of maybe needing to go, we proactively take him since sometimes when he is playing he doesn't think about it.