We split holidays between my family and my in-laws so no one can argue and so it’s not overwhelming. And we switch each year. So for example this year my family came for Thanksgiving and his family will come for Christmas. Next year we will do Thanksgiving with his family and Xmas with mine. I typically host Thanksgiving since my family is smaller on the “on” years and may travel a bit for his families turn. However, when I had my kids and they were young I said I was not going to travel with a young kid so they could come to me if they wanted to do holidays together. I also made it clear I was not going to be that involved in actually hosting or making food since I had a small baby I was taking care of.
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