Posted in Education, Preschoolers, Tough Topics

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Anonymous

To Mums/Dads of kids of color(black)- My son recently got his 1st innocent experience of racial discrimination. I wasnt ready for it yet and didnt have a contigency plan on what to do, so it make sense that I just froze when a much older kid at the library told my toddler to go away coz he looks scary and Black. He is just a toddler, and probably wont remember, but he is starting preschool soon and I am just here thinking "what if his classroom teacher thinks the same way?!" "What if he is disciplined differently because of the color of his skin?" What if his normal age-appropriate challenging behaviors and tantrums are taking out of proportion cos of implicit bias?"- I worry🤔😣. How do you process and handle things like this? When searching for preschool,how do u make sure the school is inclusive,welcoming, and have systems/policies in place for issues like this?🤔 I am really looking forward to inputs and advice. Thanks🙏🏾

  • SavyJ
    Mar 28

    As far as looking for preschools I would ask the school directly what you mentioned in your post. As for that ignorant kid in the library, maybe next time you can say he's not scary, he looks different, but he's just like you. He likes to etc etc. There's also so many books out there you can start introducing. Happy in our Skin & The color of us are 2 examples. Theres a ton on Amazon! My last bit of advice is if possible pick a preschool that meets your requirements but is also as diverse as possible. Good luck

  • Liza
    Mar 28

    If in willow glen and you find that preschool let me know as I will be facing the same situation soon in finding the right place where diversity is celebrated

  • Karla
    Mar 28

    I’m really sorry this happened to your son. I’ve encountered some racist children calling my son Chinese, when his ethnicity is hispanic/ filipino. I agree with Savy, ask these questions at the pre-schools. Also look at the pre-school demographics as well as if they have curriculum that involves diversity and if the teachers have been trained in working with a diverse population. Additionally, for elementary schools, School counselors are the people on campus that make events that help school culture like bullying prevention, kindness assemblies, inclusion activities, so make sure you enroll your son in a school that has a school counselor or a school that is keen on mental health

  • Luis
    Mar 29

    Honestly, I would be just as worried and I would be asking myself the same questions. I am in absolute awe of how people of color keep it together in this country... I don’t have the mental strength, I would go crazy... I can offer you this: if it ever happens in front of me, I will not paralyze and I will not stay quiet. I’m very sorry you had to witness that... and from a child ...

  • Anonymous
    Apr 14

    Thanks for all the replies and good thoughts... Couldn't find any preschool with diversity and inclusion on their agenda, ever.... But I will keep on searching... 🙏🏾