Ever wonder how your kids are - or how they're treating others - while they're at daycare?
My 9 month old started full time daycare mid-May. Since then I've seen some worrying things when I've come to pick him up. There were the scratches on his face a few times when I picked him up from daycare - nothing huge, but the scratches were almost touching his eye, that's how close they got. Another time there was an ink stain on his pants. The staff said nothing at every instance. I've seen them be rough with someone's colicky newborn (and I get it, my kid had colic, it's nervewracking, but still, whoa). I've seen them open a door and the door hit a crawling baby in the face on the other side - the baby of course cries but they just leave him there and say "Don't worry, mama will come, it's not time yet." And I've seen a toddler circle my baby, stand over him, and then rip a toy out of my baby's hands just after one of the staff had given the toy to my baby. Then he walked off far away from my baby's reach to play with the toy without him. My baby is not only younger and smaller than the toddler. He's a preemie, he's behind on his developmental milestones, not mobile yet, and very quiet. He didn't have a chance. Toddlers are old enough that you can say no and teach them what they did was bad. And by the way that toddler went out of my baby's ability to get back the toy, and the fact he looked back to see if my baby will scream for an adult, it was obvious the toddler knew what he did was wrong. I told the staff what I saw. They just chuckled it off. I don't like seeing my baby bullied and worry how much more he's subjected to when I'm not there. Is that toddler also taking toys and gear that we bring to the daycare specifically for my baby each day? His special sleep aids, favorite toys, soothers? Mind you, this is a daycare that has the highest ratings and high reviews from parents on yelp. This daycare is supposedly among the best in this city. Is this the best I can hope for? Am I being overvigilant? Serious question, because this is our first time with daycares and I honestly don't know. And what should I do to make sure my kid doesn't get bullied if staff won't raise a finger? What would you do if it was your kid ripping the toys out of younger, more vulnerable babies? Everyone worries about their kids being bullied. How many of you could accept it if someone complained to you about your kid bullying theirs?