Expecting Dad...

Is it bad or normal that I still don’t believe I’m having a baby...My wife (since she is the one pregnant) is very excited and tells me all about it & I don’t know what to say sometimes as it’s still not sinked in my head... I do get excited from time to time thinking about the idea of it. Experienced dads out there? What’s your story?

  • Anonymous
    Sep 13

    My husband is the same way. He’s super honest with me and always tells me how he feels. I’m due next Sunday.. I honestly still am trying to comprehend that I’m pregnant.. lol

  • Christian
    Sep 13

    Lol okay so it’s normal then lol.

  • Shruti
    Sep 13

    Perfectly normal. My husband did not truly bond with our second baby till the baby was about four months..when the baby started smiling and responding.

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Sep 13

    It’s normal. We all experience becoming dads in different ways. We had two miscarriages prior so I was super excited. I am also a SAHD, so I jumped in right away.

  • Christian
    Sep 13

    Oh wow!

  • JJ
    Sep 13

    I wasn’t super thrilled when first realizing I was going to be a parent. I never got into the cutesy pregnancy/mom to be stuff. And it wasn’t like the movies when I fell in love the moment I pushed out that little ball of goo. It took weeks. But eventually yes, I absolutely fell in love and just kept getting knocked up.

  • Carissa
    Sep 13

    I carried the baby and delivered the baby and it took me a good 3 months to feel connected to him. He’s 9 months now and I love him more than words can express but like the others have said, everyone is different. You’ll be excited in your own time and learn to love your baby. Then you’ll wonder how you ever lived without them. 😊

  • Elle
    Sep 14

    Second JJ's and Carissa's sentiments. You will feel excited before you know it. Some people get more excited about things that exist; some people get mlre excited about the idea of things that haven't come to pass yet. That's all. Don't rush it. It'll be a more fantastic moment when you feel it for real. In the meantime, help your partner as much a possible and keep close with your partner by being honest with her (maybe instead of expressing excitement for specifically the baby, talk about excitement for when it all finally clicks and becomes real, your future together, growing your family, something like that).

  • Mrs. Robinson
    Sep 14

    I know you asked for other dad's to speak up here, so I hope it is alright that I am not responding as a dad. My husband was similar to you regarding a lack of connection. He did not get that surreal feeling until he saw the 3D ultrasound and a face to connect with and then he started feeling the movements in my belly and it became more exciting and real. It seems the disconnect feeling doesn't just go away though (though I feel it could). Mom's bond faster possibly because of the fact that it is happening to our bodies, breast feeding (if she will do that) and so forth. Baby wants mommy more in the beginning (maybe later as well) but where does that leave daddy in terms of connecting? I think what your feeling is normal and just fine. Just don't let your disconnect be a "I don't care" because your wife and child need you and like you said, you are excited. Maybe find ways to connect with your wife during this awesome time and let her tell you about how she is connecting with the baby/pregnancy. Use that to build upon as time will be very precious in the next coming months. You have time to connect with your child when you finally meet.

  • Tony
    Sep 15

    Completely normal. I wasn’t able to be “happy” or “ excited” about the second pregnancy until our daughter was here. We’re all different. Perhaps take the time for preparing for your baby. Hopefully that may help you out. Keeps you busy.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 15

    I’m a ftm mom and I feel the exact same way.. I’m due next week..

  • Christa
    Sep 16

    My husband was the same way- he loved when I told him about it the weekly charges, but was still like “this whole baby thing, I don’t believe it...” he finally was like “oh my gosh, I’m a daddy” when I went into labor and he delivered our son!! Totally normal

  • Jessica
    Sep 26

    My husband said it didn’t hit him until the baby popped out :) he even “faked” feeling the baby kick just to make me happy. You’ll get there!

  • Michele
    Oct 10

    Being a father often doesn't become real for men until they hold their baby for the first time. Very normal!