Expecting too much from daycare?
My eight-month-old will be starting daycare on Monday, and I'm wondering if my expectations are reasonable. For some background, I had 6.5 months maternity leave and we had a nanny while I mostly worked from home in the interim. We follow what I sometimes call "low key" attachment parenting style, and I am anti-CIO for our family. It's the hill I will die on. My baby and I dropped into the daycare yesterday for a planned morning visit, which was a little while before naptime began. I was shocked to find that they let the babies cry themselves to sleep for naps, though they called it "fussing." All the little ones were just so unhappy in their cribs. The teachers were running around putting babies in bouncers holding their own bottles, which also seemed unhealthy to me. Maybe one had fallen asleep by the time we left. It broke my heart. This is not the life I want for my baby. The ratio is 4:1, with 8 babies max, and now I'm realizing that's just not sustainable. Yet that's the going ratio here in Brooklyn. This was the best daycare of many that we toured. They look wonderful from the outside, and I think we'd actually be happy with the toddler room. What have your experiences been with daycare and naps? Maybe daycare just isn't right for our family?