Posted in Mental Health

Extremely depressed

I am wreck at the moment, my 8 week baby sleeps too much .. almost through the night and then during the day as well... I have had her after years of struggle through IVF.. seen many DRs they say it ok and wake her up for feeds and some says feed her on demand.. she lifts her head when he is on my chest for burp.. not on tummy time.. just once on tummy.. sleeps only on left.. which she manages to move on her own.. since the Birth.. doesn’t really gets bothered by loud noise or startles.. but soothes with baby music.. not follows the object all the time.. grip on my finger all time but rare... I everytime I discuss this with my husband or family they get mad and upset.. I feel so hollow and depressed all the time seems my life is stuck and I am never going to come out of it.. only hope is when baby starts to respond..

  • PK
    Jun 15

    Have you seen a dr for yourself? Possibly for a diagnosis of PPD or PPA? My son slept a lot at that age too. We were instructed by the pediatrician to wake our son to feed every 3-4 hrs.

  • Harsha
    Jun 15

    So doctors says, nothing to worry.. one doctor recommends to wake her up and feed her other one said feed on demand... could you throw some light on PPD or PPA

  • Harsha
    Jun 15

    And how is your son doing now?

  • PK
    Jun 15

    Well we did both.. feed on a schedule and feed on demand. If he woke up and wanted milk before 3-4 hrs, we would give it to him. If he was sleeping but not waking, then we woke him up. We just did this until the pediatrician said it was ok to let him sleep. He wasn’t underweight but he was small. Why does she have two drs? I would talk to both drs and ask them why they recommend what they do and based on their reasoning, go with what you feel is best for your child. My son is doing great! 2.5 years old now. Sleeps about the average amount for his age. He’s smaller than average for his age but it’s probably because both my husband and I are short. I don’t personally have experience PPD or PPA. I don’t want to give bad advice. But it’s postpartum depression / anxiety. I would talk to a dr about how you’re feeling and what you are going through. It’s normal to experience depression and anxiety after giving birth as our hormones are all over the place trying to normalize. Seeing a dr about these issues may help you.

  • Inters-Mom
    Jun 23

    Hi, sounds like there are a lot of expectations on you the mom and baby given how arduous the process was to conceive your LO, and a feeling of lack of support from your partner and loved ones. Try not to be so hard on yourself, maybe that means stop googling, or trusting your instincts more. Tactically speaking, you and your baby can go see a chiropractor to work on the positioning issue (sleeping on left side), a cranial sacral therapist who specializes in babies (can go as early as 2 weeks after delivery). And then there’s acupuncture for yourself to help with hormonal imbalances postpartum (not to mention depression) and acupressure for babies - helps with feeding, breathing, etc. Also, depending what is in your diet, some of the foods might be making the baby sleepy. And don’t forget babies go through all these growth spurts really fast and need a lot of sleep to be successful at their growth spurts. As long as the baby isn’t over heating (it’s summer time now so this can make them more tired, fussy, increases SIDS chances) and the baby is eating and eliminating alright/ enough then you have nothing to worry about. It’s going to be okay!