Family caregivers that want to continue caregiving but we don’t want it.
Right now my toddler is at home with grandmas (yes we pay them). When she turns 18 months she will go to a montessori 3x a week. And each grandma will do the other 2x a week. This has been a long awaited change in our life because my husband and I dont particularly enjoy having our moms in our homes 5x a week and coming home after a long day at work to our moms... I know others may feel differently but this is a fact for us, we like our privacy and our home to be OUR home. I want her to be in montessori. 5x a week so we can have our lives back. Eventually it will happen. But how do we deal with the guilt that these grandmas love watching her and have more purpose in their lives now? They each have jobs too, so it’s not like they do nothing else. I’m thinking to point it toward, they are no longer caregivers so they can be grandmas and spoil her whereas they can’t spoil her if they are her caregivers! Also because they will see her less so spoiling and being annoying grandmas is OKAY. Normally I don’t let them spoil her and We rarely see them on weekends bc we already see them so often during the week. Honestly I think this is a better set up for our family, Seeing then for quality time buy less quantity is better for my and husbands sanity. Also yes, I know we will be working a bit more in the mornings (versus waking up and handing her to grandmas in our house) but that’s how life is like when they are in real school anyways!