I'm 28 weeks pregnant and dealing with some drama tonight that I'm trying not to get stressed about. Does have any advice? So, back in the beginning of my pregnancy, my mom made a comment about wanting to stay with us for a week when the baby is born to help out. This is her first grandchild and she is extremely excited. She lives 12+ hours away. Initially I thought "yeah, ok, makes sense." Since then she has come to stay with us for a week at Christmas time. During that week, she ended up leaving early because she got upset that I made plans for her and I to have an outing with my MIL. To my knowledge they got along great and enjoyed each other's company but I guess she felt that I didn't want to spend time with her. She feels that we spend loads of time with my in-laws, which we do because they live a half hour away. Anyway, after the drama of that week, my husband brought up that maybe it wasn't a good idea for her to stay with us in the week we come home from the hospital. We will be overwhelmed enough without adding the responsibility of hosting overnight guests. So I talked to her today and reiterated many times that I want her to come to the hospital when the baby is born, but we don't think we will be up to hosting her for a week straight. I explained that my husband will only have a week off and he wants that time to bond with the baby. I suggested she come and stay while we are in the hospital but then go to my sister's to stay for a few days (she lives 2 hr away from me) and both of them come for day visit(s). She said "well I could get a hotel." I am fine with that but told her I didn't want her to have to have the expense of a plane ticket + hotel. I could tell she began crying during the conversation. So I tried to steer the conversation back to something else until she said she had to go. She is coming to stay for Easter and my baby shower is the day before. Well I just got a text that said she booked an air bnb for Easter. No where in my conversation did I say or imply that I didn't want her to stay with me for Easter. I thought my reasons were valid and had everything to do with navigating the first week of being a parent and physically healing from birth. Which has nothing to do with Easter weekend as the baby is due in June. Then she texted my sister and said "it feels great to not be wanted in your own daughter's home." All I want is for everyone to be happy and spend quality time together with no hurt feelings or drama. I want her to be a big part of the baby's life, obviously, but my husband and I kind of want to have that time to get to know this baby who we have also never met before...I know she wants to be helpful but it's not helpful to make me feel like a horrible daughter simply because I want a week alone with my husband and new baby.