Family expectations from daycare
I work/study from home and needed some time during the week to focus on my work. So we found a 2 day a week home-based daycare situation with a 1:2 to 1:3 ratio that we pay $16/hr. Baby (9 months old) is a challenge to feed and doesn't nap on a schedule, but if you put finger food on the tray, he will eat the food by himself but it will take time and if you just let him play he will end up napping wherever. I understand how this may not be fully sustainable with daycare operations. We told the daycare during the interview and said they would help with it. Now that we started they did a 180 degree on us, and pretty much implied that we (and by we, they mean me the mom) needed to fix the eating and sleep issue or else. If we get the boot from this daycare, should I write off all daycares and focus on a nanny share only (it's been really tough making it work with other families' schedules, preferences, and nannies)? I am just wondering if daycare is only possible if your kid is eating and sleeping well on a schedule, and if not you are just out of luck? Update: Second day went better. It's been very edifying understanding the daycare perspective and the impact of regulation. I should probably have spent more time thinking about it ahead of time. Frankly, I had kind of written off the daycare option because of these issues, but this opening fell on our lap and when I saw the low ratio and they said they would help, I believed them, which clearly was foolish. As far as schedule, it's also super cultural because I come from Southern Europe, and kids do like regularity but we are definitely not freaking out if we need to make exceptions here and there. I asked my friend what they do at daycare there, and up to a year old they let them nap on their own schedule and after 12 months they offer at the same time, but if they don't want to nap one day they are allowed to play after a solid try. Maybe we don't turn out fine, ha ha but it's hard for me to fully comprehend why nap schedule is so important in the US, but I can respect it. I think we all agree that kids need enough napping regardless, I wasn't suggesting to skip all naps all days. I also think that a big impact is the lack of government subsidy as daycare attendants are paid just a little less than a nurse there, so it makes it easier to deal with crazy kids! I am sure I don't pay the daycare enough to follow my LO's mood. Private nannies are definitely not an option here as they want full schedule and $30+ /hr, which is double what I make, but we are looking at moving somewhere more affordable. Nanny shares could be feasible for the same price, it is just hard to coordinate, and the nap schedule is also an issue there.