Family friend babysitter or in home daycare
So, for the past two years I've had my daughter at a family friend's home with her granddaughter who is the same age. Sometimes it goes great, most of the time I feel like it could be better. She is fed well and has a place to nap, but she gets in trouble a lot and often gets reprimanded for saying "no" to putting her hair up or just saying the word in general. She is 2 and is going through the "me do it" phase, which I get can be stressful. I also have seen her give her granddaughter coffee (on multiple occasions) and once at a restaurant, she gave the granddaughter sugar packets to eat because she was getting rowdy... I've also been working on potty training a little bit at home but whenever she is over there, the sitter spends more time with the other child. She stated "every time I take G. To the bathroom, I bring R."... shouldn't it also be vice versa? They both have to go at different times. My daughter might not need to go when her granddaughter does. Now the granddaughter is potty trained completely and I haven't seen her offer the potty to my daughter when I've been over there. We also have to put my daughter in pjs and a shirt over it so she can't disrobe during nap time, but she frequently forgets and has found her with poop all over the crib about three times this month. Anyways, I happy she is able to spend time with another kid and she likes her, but I feel like she doesn't get as much out of it as the lady's granddaughter, who she is with all week. I don't know if it would be better at a center where they can learn a little bit and not have as much favoritism. Any ideas or am I just going crazy?