Family/friends gatherings, outings
I want to start off by saying that im a sahm and my husband does all the parenting stuff and he is a great parent and loving husband and we are in a great place in our relationship albeit with our own shortcomings. He chages diapers, feeds the baby (20 month old only child), puts her to bed etc whenever he has time/can. But when we are out or we have people over, especially multiple families, i feel like im constantly doing stuff with the kid (feed, clean, taking care of her in general) throughout the day or i have to constantly ask my husband to do something (feed her, give her a snack, check her diaper etc) or he'll keep asking me if its the right amount of food, where her pants are at etc. Even when im catching up with family/friends i haven't met in a while, playing a card game, watching a movie etc. I have to go help him with her and come back to it. I dont mind it at all. But my husband gets uninterrupted periods of time where he goes on for a while playing with his friends or talking with them or watching a game etc where he is able to completely disconnect. This is especially true when we have people over, i mean he is also the host. I feel like i do most of the stuff, cook, clean, prep and clen the house before we have people over, shopping and make sure everything is stocked up etc. He will do it if i ask him but i have to ask him to do something every single time. If i ask him to empty trash before guests comeover. I have to remind him till he does it and then do it all over next time we have people over. And thats just one thing. How do i communicate with my husband about being more responsible when we have people over, without sounding as if he is not doing enough. Also, im 'expected' to go and help the lady host in the kitchen/with kids when we go over to friends/family house. Again, i dont mind but it feels unfair that women are 'expected' to do it. Men also do stuff but no one bats an eye if they just chill with the beer on the porch talking about how the raptors won. But if i do the same im sure ill get some looks. Or am i just putting pressure on myself to fit to these norms? Do you ladies do it/or feel the need to?