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Fate of Frozen Embryos

Anonymous

5 years ago (before the successful IVF & birth of our first, and unassisted conception of our second) my husband and I were infertility patients. We have 5 frozen embryos leftover that we pay $400 annual to keep. Every year we struggle with what to do with them. Donate, destroy or continue to freeze? Any help, suggestions or stories of personal experience on how to ethically and emotionally navigate this would be so appreciated.

  • Gina
    Sep 07, 2018

    My husband and I are in the same situation ... we’ve been storing our three for 10 years now at $700. I’m so torn ... 🙁

  • Anonymous
    Sep 07, 2018

    I’m so glad to know we are not alone. I have no idea what to do, it’s so hard and every time the bill comes in the mail I’m reminded of the weight of it all emotionally.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 08, 2018

    In same boat, we had 8 embryos, had 2 inserted for first IVF round, with 1 successful birth. Then tried for 2nd and first attempt failed. We had the remaining PGS tested and had 3 remaining viable embryos. Currently in first trimester with our 2nd, our fees will be due before this baby is due, do we pay for another year? We wouldn’t try for a third. It’s so hard to make these life changing decisions.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 08, 2018

    Agree - so hard! Curious if anyone has ever donated them and what that process is like? So conflicted. PS wishing you a healthy remainder of the pregnancy and delivery!

  • Alexis
    Sep 09, 2018

    I've never been the one storing embryos, but as someone who struggled with infertility and considered embryo adoption, I would say that donation is a very selfless and caring thing you could consider. But if you are not 100% certain that you will not decide to carry these embryos yourself, hold on to them. After all, they are your babies and I completely get that decided where to send them is a very emotional decision. To us IF families, those little tiny embabies are just as much of our child as the ones we have birthed. Prayers for you in this tough decision!

  • Sara
    Sep 11, 2018

    Are they all PGS tested? If not, you might want to do that to see if they are all viable... chances are some will not be. You can probably get a bulk rate so it shouldn't be super expensive. I think embryo donation is a wonderful gift you can give to another family though there are some implications for your kids since those will be their genetic siblings. I am in a similar boat but only have 1 viable embryo frozen so the choice is a bit easier for me.

  • Trudy
    Sep 12, 2018

    I agree with what Alexis said about if you are not 100% certain you won't carry them, pay the fee. As a person who's been paying the fee annually as well for many years, I always tell myself that the cost of $400/yr if I dont end up using them is far less than the emotional costs if I get rid of them now and change my mind later. If that makes any sense.