Posted in Behavior, Toddlers

Favoring her dad


My 16 month old little girl suddenly favors her dad over me. If i try to grab her from him she gets really upset, almost as if I'm a stranger. She only wants to be held by him and she is super cuddly with him. I work part time and dad works full time so i am with her more. I can't help it but it hurts my feelings! I can't help but feel like I’ve done something wrong. Please tell me there is someone out there struggling with this too!!

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18, 2019

    Awwwww poor mama :( My son goes back and forth between both of us, started around a year and a half or so. Don’t know what it is, but he will go back and forth with who he wants. I’ve read it’s normal, so maybe just wait your turn 😉 lol

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18, 2019

    Thank you. That makes me hopeful! My husband is enjoying it so I'll just try to stop feeling left out

  • Jackie
    Nov 19, 2019

    My daughter is also 16 months and does the same thing!!

  • Destin
    Nov 21, 2019

    Maybe she wants some extra time with daddy cuz she doesn’t get to see him as much since you are with her most of the time! Maybe she’s a daddy’s girl! Try not to get to upset...there are a lot of little ones without daddy’s in their life at all, so look at it as a good think that she loves him so much! And don’t forget that she loves you that much too!! Your time will come when she only wants you!!

  • Amanda
    Nov 22, 2019

    My son does this. I'm a SAHM and my husband works 11hr days alternating nights and days every 2 weeks. When he is home nothing can make my son happy unless he is attached to dad. I think it just depends on who they are needing attention from at the time. Your daughter knows she has your attention when she is home with just you but when dad comes home she wants his attention at that time. It will work itself out as they get more accustomed to life and how schedules work.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 22, 2019

    Amanda, that is super similar to my situation. I think you must be right- it makes sense. She just needs get dad, which is a good thing because it means he's a good dad. Thank you for the insight, that made me feel much better

  • Penelope
    Dec 02, 2019

    It’ll change