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Feeling Blah

With 2 kids (a toddler and infant) I have no time for myself. When they are both down for the night, I am exhausted. I always have these big plans- movies, wine, facial..but then I pass out. Feeling like I look drained, dull, boring..curious how you guys would spice up things for yourself. I want to feel alive again. Lol

  • Anonymous
    Jun 10

    Day. Care. Saved my life lol I got a part time job and part time day care.... I know it isn’t in everyone’s budget but it was awesome to get ready for work and chat with other adults a few hours a day!

  • Lynn
    Jun 10

    Check meet up and the library postings for play groups. Find a mom tribe of kids around the same age. Getting out of the house is so much better. Museums. Play spaces. Libraries. Parks. Childcare. Classes for the kids.

  • Lynn
    Jun 10

    Find a baby sitter or gym with childcare. Ymcas have them.

  • Makayla
    Jun 10

    I have one almost two years old and one almost three months old. I can completely relate to feeling drained and boring. I’ve been working on taking them out more and making plans with other mommas. Just making an excursion to the library in the morning has helped me. That early morning getting ready with a purpose makes me feel more prepared for the day. Doesn’t sound like a whole lot of fun, but it’s helpful to me.

  • K
    Jun 10

    I have a just turned 4 year old and twin girls 18 mths. I just started making plans to go places fir myself when my husband is home on the weekend. Just getting a pedicure with a coffee is heaven for me. I usually stay up a couple of hours past their bedtime (my son is down by 8, girls by 6:30/7). But, I can’t seem to find the will to do anything but have an uninterrupted snack and catch up on news and tv shows. I’m sure it will change as all things do, and I’m ok with it for now. Pick one small thing that you want to do for you and make it happen. Even if it’s just sitting outside for 10 minutes with a glass of wine or a face mask on. Another little ritual I have, sounds crazy, but it works....when alone in the car, blast some music and sing loud...zen!

  • Erika
    Jun 10

    I stay home with my son and my two dogs. I got someone to baby sit them over at their place that way I had my home to myself and maaaan I took the longest nap then did everything I wanted to do. That was the best day I’ve had in forever.

  • Heather
    Jun 10

    I sometimes drink tea or coffee around 6/7 pm so that I can stay awake and then I have a few hours after the kids go to sleep to just be. I might not get a ton of sleep those nights but I wake up feeling refreshed.

  • Jennifer
    Jun 10

    My husband and just got in the routine of trading off really well. If I cook dinner he does sons dinner, bath and bedtime and vise versa. It works great for us because we both get a little time at the end of the night to ourselves and neither is exhausted

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Wednesday

    Does your 3 yr old nap? I don’t have extra cash for any memberships, daycare, or babysitters, as I growing what will be our fourth baby in less than 5 years. What I did find was that either getting naps aligned during the day, or utilizing the tv when baby(ies) was napping was key. I would either 1) snuggle/power nap with the older child 2) get in an at home workout (we have some weights and I’ve found some great body weight ones) 3) do something intellectual for me like some remote volunteer work, or reading a book etc. I also ultilize car rides for naps like it’s nobody business. We hit the park 930-12, I burn them out and then on the drive home they either pass out or are ready to watch tv, eat and just be chill. When my kids all napped I had a few times where I grabbed a coffee or a favorite fast food meal and just sat in the car and ate/drank and just existed with my music and my favorite food and no billion questions. :) but honestly, if you don’t have the extra finances to fund bonus help, try being a little creative and bending some of these insane standards and rules we have for burned out moms.

  • Amy
    Wednesday

    I just have have 20 month old and there are nights when I just pass out right after he goes to bed lol Personally I'm a gamer so after he goes to bed, I like to jump on my Xbox and play video games with my friends. I may catch my husband sometimes (he is currently deployed). Some weekends I'll play during the day and my son will watch for a bit before playing. So I dont feel trapped, I look for events around town that I can take my son. A few places have started "Mommy and me" where you can hang out with other parents, and some parks are starting "Movies under the stars". If all else fails, maybe ask family or friends to watch your kiddos for a night so you can get out and enjoy the time.

  • Aya
    Thursday

    I have 2.5 year old twins and a 6 year old. We have a weekly babysitter that comes every week no matter what. We use that night to do date night, go out with friends, go get a massage, etc. Because it's set as a weekly thing with the babysitter - it forces us to do things (in a good way).

  • Jenn
    Friday

    Mom’s helper, join or start a babysitting co-op, or babysit trade with a friend.