Posted in Activities & Enrichment, Education, Toddlers

Feeling like I'm not doing enough...

My son is going to be 2 in just over a month. I'm a sahm and feel like I'm not doing enough to teach him everything he needs to know. He really started talking over the last two months, and I know every child is different, but I feel like we go over the same things every day and it's just not clicking. I'm by no means an educator and don't know where to start. I've read a million pinterest posts and have made flashcards and don't feel like I'm going anywhere. I try to have different excursions outside the home at least four days a week - trips to the grocery store, the library, the aquarium, the park and playground, etc. His longest attention span is first thing in the morning so I try to work on colors, numbers, letters, etc but feel like I'm talking to a brick wall. I guess my question is, how do you structure your days for teaching and what else should I be doing? I feel like I'm holding him back from his potential, but financially right now me staying home makes the most sense.

  • Kerry
    Feb 20

    My little one just turned 1. I dont set out to teach him i just repeat things over and over. Ive been a nanny previous to being a sahm so the repetition comes naturally. Also make sure you talk to him all the time. Make sure your trying to teach things that arent too above his age unless he needs more stimulation. Check out what a 2 yr old should know and do, some kids excel in one thing but delayed a little on something else. Alot comes with playing for example if he plays with cars as he drives them along you can say you have the blue car or give me the red car or give me 2 cars. Ive attached a developmental chart by age. This has helped me recently.

  • Lynn
    Feb 20

    We read a lot of books. I talk about everything I see. We mostly did parks and playgrounds. Hiking. Children’s museums. Libraries. He’s young. You’re doing fine. Don’t push him. They all get there at their own pace and one day, he will just blow up and go 0-100 and never shut up. 🤪 If the pediatrician isn’t worried. You shouldn’t be. Kids mostly need love and caring. Different experiences. Patience.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 20

    Is it because he is bored with it? I have a hard time with teaching my daughter but the more laid back I am the more she learns. My daughter is 16mo. She knew all of her colors by 14mo. She has a ball pit and while she'd play I would say the color of the ball she was holding. Eventually I would say "find a yellow ball" and she would find one to hold up. Then she started picking up the balls by herself and saying the color. Now she runs around, points at objects, and calls out the color. She even knows brown, black, and white. Try to apply learning to things he is interested in. Tell him the colors of his favorite toys. Side note : Being a mother is hard. You will always feel like you're not doing enough. I promise you, you are. You're doing enough and so much more so keep trying. You're doing great.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 20

    There really isn't much you should expect from a 2 year old, except basic language and learning how to be a decent human being. That being said, look up @busytoddler on Instagram, she has a billion ideas on how to entertain kids. Toddlers won't learn by flash cards, and knowing this stuff by 2 doesn't make them extra smart, they will most likely still know the same stuff as their peers by kindergarten. She focuses on different kinds of play, and explains how each of her 3 children were completely different developmentally. I at least know with my almost 3 year old that pushing him to do anything doesn't work, he is so stubborn! But he has managed to learn colors, numbers, letters, shapes, simple addition, about 25 super heroes and their human names (Thanks Dad) about 15 or more transformers, all the paw patrol, and all the superwings. And most of it he has just learned from us talking, reading and singing. So some useful stuff and some useless stuff 🤷

  • Ashley
    Feb 20

    My son is the same way. He is three, I tried everything at age 2 to get him to talk and to have a long attention span. Still working on it. I got a hold of Sam. They came to the house, and now he dose bciu twice a week. He dose speech therapy and occupational. He’s improving lots. But still not where he needs. But this past 2 weeks he’s really been putting sentences together, and lots of words he never used. Also he still can’t sit still very long always has to keep moving. But he’s improving. He was tested for autism, came back negative. Just have to find what works but bciu is great. And it’s free. Look into it. Also we try to do songs, and I make everything about learning. Exsample: points to light switch. He won’t say it but I say it three times and then turn it on. After a week he was saying ight. So I gave good that’s right light. Now he says it all the time. Or like get mommy the blue car on the floor. And do you want an apple, say everything three times anything more is just annoying to kids. That’s what they told me. And don’t give him anything g until he uses his words. That was my fail and now I now. I hope this helped.

  • JEaton
    Feb 20

    Thank you for all the input. We read daily, talk about all of his toys and there's lots of repetition, and enjoy time outdoors. I think I just have higher expectations than what he's capable of at this age. He's also pretty stubborn. He'll tell me all about something until I ask him. Then he shuts down.

  • Ashley
    Feb 20

    Sounds like my son. Can talk me ear off but when we ask something it’s not a good time for him. Very stubborn. Maybe even if he’s not already try to find activity with other kids. I use toddler time at a church once a week. Or maybe daycare a few times a week to interact with kids and he will open up more too. Toddler time helped him with sharing and playing.

  • Angela
    Feb 21

    With my son, he really needed to be around other kids to really take off. In our case we sent him to half day Montessori, but you could try any type of group where the kids are the same each time so he develops relationships and makes friends. Even though we went to tons of random activities (story time, music, museum stuff), he was hesitant to become involved even though he's a total go-getter otherwise.

  • MommyDear
    Feb 21

    Reading books, educational toys & certain shows have helped mine. He loves learning and now he loves helping out around the house whether it’s prepping meals, doing laundry or throwing out babies used diaper for mommy. If you haven’t tried already, have your little one help around the house and naming things, objects, colors, counting, etc. You could also join a mommy group with kids the same age as yours, most of the time they learn from each other: monkey see, monkey do. I’ve learned that the trick is persistence & repetition... lots of repetition & patience.

  • becky
    Feb 21

    I am a mom of a two year old and also a preschool teacher. Let me tell you that you are overthinking this. Dont put so much pressure on yourself. Bringing your kiddo to the library and on playdate is more than enough. Two year olds learn through play. You describing the color or feels of toys and being very descriptive will be enough. I sing the ABC's while washing hands. Just incorporate it. Take a deep breath. You are a great mommy just for worrying about this stuff:)

  • Jenn
    Feb 21

    For 1 week: stop going on pinterest and trying so hard to do everything. Just be with your son. Follow his lead and take the opportunity to learn about him without all the pressure. Sometimes you just need to connect :)

  • Ian
    Feb 21

    Do. Not. Worry. There is so much pressure in the US for kids to hit milestones. In reality, just being there with him and being patient with him is what’s important. You’re doing awesome. I’m serious.

  • Kristina
    Feb 21

    From 12 mo we always explained things to him.. ex: roll the blue ball or do you see the red truck. We explain it all so he know what it is, or what it does. He’s 3 now, and just earlier he got in trouble for slamming the doors. He didn’t understand why it was dangerous until I put his fingers in the door to show him how it can hurt him or others I obviously didn’t close the door on his fingers, but it helped him to understand vs just saying don’t do that. Same with colors, numbers & letters. If you incorporate it into your everyday life it’s easy & fun.

  • Myrtle
    Feb 23

    Ditto to the posts that talk about taking the pressure off yourself! He is only two just let him be a kid! He will have the rest of his life to have to meet expectations in school etc. just have fun & engage with him;you’re doing awesome!