First time mom

I am almost 21 weeks pregnant with my first child, and it's starting to get overwhelming. I won't be a single parent, my boyfriend is the dad and is definitely excited. This is not his first child. He has a 2 and a half year old boy. But I'm getting scared about how much there is. I am only 21, and I have been excited about having children for years. This was not a planned pregnancy, and unfortunately he and I have not been together long. The relationship is fine, but some of my fears he doesn't understand. He says I'm just stressing and need to quit worrying so much. Part of me knows he is right, but it would still be nice to talk to someone who gets it and can help. I'm so scared I'm going to screw up, I feel like I'm the world’s clumsiest person and I’m about to be given the most delicate thing in existence. He says I'll be fine because I do well with his son, but it doesn't help me with worries I'll mess up with an infant. Can anyone on here help me? I’m feeling lost and overwhelmed and scared. Thanks in advance!

  • Kala
    Nov 08

    Those worries and fears are so normal especially being a first time mom! Once you hold that baby it will all make sense. Being pregnant is just an overwhelming experience in general but the fact that your worried already means your going to be a great mom. None of us have it figured out lol. We’re all just winging it one day at a time. I’m pregnant with my second baby and my daughter is 2 years old and I have all those fears again and I’m still scared I won’t be able to handle a second but we never know what we’re capable of until it happens. Try and stay positive and not worry so much just wing it one day at a time. Those mama instincts will kick in as soon as your baby comes

  • Kala
    Nov 08

    Also girl accidents happen and I’m super clumsy as well but you will be fine! We can’t protect our kids from every bump and bruise that’s something I’ve had to learn the hard way.

  • Meaghan
    Nov 08

    Thank you so much Kala, you have no idea what a relief it is to hear im not crazy for being worried...

  • Kala
    Nov 08

    Sometimes we all need a little reassurance

  • Kendall
    Nov 08

    Girl I know the feeling! All I ever ever ever wanted in my life was to be a mom. I even went to college so that I could feel ok with myself to stay home and raise kids. But the desire to be a mom doesn’t make it less scary. After all, if they go hungry it’s on you, if they get hurt it’s on you. There’s no bigger fear in life! It’s silly when people say “oh your mom instincts will kick in” but it’s oh so true! For some reason you’ll find that weird position of standing/rocking/singing and your baby will fall asleep and you won’t know how you figured that out.... but you do. There’s no denying it’s scary, and honestly I’m 12 months in now and I have no idea what I’m doing still! Try and relax, try and breathe. Think of how many moms out there you know and even ones you don’t! If we all did it, so can you. We’re made for it after all.

  • Lily
    Nov 08

    You will be fine! I became a mom at 19, I worked as a nanny but never for a newborn! I had no idea what to do with such a little helpless thing! It will all come to you! And you don’t need a bunch of stuff, all they really need is diapers and mom. Just enjoy being pregnant and all the new things! Because you won’t remember 1/2 of it in a year! And just take in every moment of it:)