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FTM seeking daycare with a couple of concerns

I’m a FTM to a wonderful 22 mo son. I’m interested in child care to promote more sociability (for him and myself lol) a few days a week. He interacts well with people in general, all the normal milestones regarding attachments. He goes to our church’s child care facility during services and we’ve used a YMCA onsite child care facility in the past (where his usual caregivers are out of sight). Many outings to parks and children’s museums. However, those are short periods of time with other children with minimal instruction scenarios from “strangers”. My concerns are Mainly his eating habits. He has aversions to certain food textures shapes and or colors. At this point I have zero clue what the issue really is beyond being simply an insanely picky eater. Everything physically checks out as normal. I’ve been offering fruit and veggies in all possible forms since he started solid food. To no avail. It’s almost like he hates sweet things! I sneak and supplement nutrients in foods he does enjoy with crafty ways and he’s growing just fine. Also, I have tried and tried with every style transition cup and sippy on the market and he refuses to use anything other than his bottle. I worry about the transition into daycare with these habits I’m trying to break. On one side, it might be exactly what he needs and beneficial to my cause to have aid in this area. On the other hand I worry he won’t eat all day and that is very stress provoking. These questions are silly but do parents provide the snacks and meals for their own toddlers? Just to supplement what they serve at first? And in daycare do they allow kids to use their own method of drinking? How does any of that work?!? 😂😭 Please advise with tips to expand his eating/drinking habits and how to make the transition into childcare easier on the both of us. Thanks so much!!!

  • Nana
    May 23

    Can you start half days, add lunch and then a full day if you need it. At 2 most preschool environment will require a cup not a bottle. If he falls off of his growth curve consult with dr and maybe feeding therapy. But if that isn’t happening he will eat when he is hungry. Try new foods when hungry. Use a cup when he is thirsty. Only cups with meals. He only needs 16 oz of milk at this age so make sure to decrease or he will just drink. (Check with dr. On amount of milk).

  • anonymous mom
    May 23

    It depends on the daycare center you end up choosing. I will say that most of the ones I looked into for my daughter (who is 20 months) do allow you to provide snacks. I also send organic milk in for my daughter every single day because I don’t like the brand they serve. But none of them let me send in a bottle once she transitioned to the toddler room. However, maybe they would let you at first to help get him over the transition. One thing to remember though is that even at this age kids really do experience peer daughter will drink milk from her straw sippy all day long at school but will only drink water from her sippy at home. Also with foods. The kids all sit at the same table and eat together and she eats way better at school than she does at home with us on the weekend. I would figure out which centers you want to send him to and then follow their lead. As for getting him to eat more have you ever looked up on instagram? She’s a nutritionist with a really picky child. She has so many fun and usually easy ideas!!! Good luck!!!

  • Cathy
    May 23

    Believe it or not, this might be a positive form of “peer pressure.” My son is 2.5 and sometimes he eats better around his peers. Talk to the teachers about your worries and it might ease them. Also chat with the Director and see what they do to help children in certain circumstances. And if doesn’t eat the first day? —- He will quickly learn that there no other options but to eat.

  • Amanda
    May 23

    Thank you all for your comments and suggestions! Yes, we are only doing milk in the mornings and at night only (we’re a huge fan of milk in our house, both his father and me grew up loving it).He drinks lightly flavored water that I drink throughout the day. He also enjoys smoothies (something that I enable because I enjoy them as well) so I understand where I went wrong lol. I only allow smoothies if he didn’t eat “enough” of the nutritious options I’ve offered at a meal. First time momma here and I obviously missed the mark on this one. He was iron deficient for awhile so I started out with a paranoia of trying to insert nutrition anywhere and everywhere I couldn through the bottle. As a solution based person, I’ll certainly discuss this with the early learning centers we visit. I’ll cut out the smoothies so he adjusts to getting what he needs through solid foods. and focus on the cup more throughout the day, especially at mealtime. You’re all so right!! Excited to see how he responds! 👏💓

  • Jenn
    May 23

    While this isn't 100% related to your question, have you ever had him evaluated by a speech pathologist for the feeding habits? He could have a sensory feeding disorder, which is why he is so affected by textures, colors, and shapes of food. He is young enough where intervention now could really be beneficial. On another note, I'm with you with the sippy cup debacle. My LO won't drink milk out of anything but a bottle.