Getting doctors to take seriously my concerns of 3 yo daughter having ASD, ADHD, OCD, something.
I don't want to bore everyone with my daughter's life story but she has been very different from my two older kids since the day she was born. Even the pregnancy was much different/harder. I also have struggled with chronic pain and had horrible PPD for a couple years after her birth. And her father is a workaholic and this was his first child so It. Was. A. Struggle! Anyway, my daughter is very smart, is not behind in anything intellectually, physically, or socially BUT within the details of every day Life routines with her has always been extremely difficult. She HAS to have everything a particular way in everything she does. If not she has a melt down. And not just a regular toddler melt down but bad ones. She doesn't forget anything once she is fixated on something. You can't distract her or bribe her or anything. She is always always sensory seeking. She gets horrible anxiety when she's uncomfortable in any way and it takes a lot to calm her down. She is so curious about every little thing and she's so smart that her watching how something works once, she figures things out on her own very quickly. She's just figured out she can say no now and she also is super compulsive even when she knows something is dangerous or she's not allowed. It scares the crap out of me because she does things like runs away from me on the sidewalk or climbs up on things or runs out the front door. She always needs to be talking to me or showing me something or dragging me somewhere. Right now she's going through a phase where she freaks out if anyone touches any of her things. She only wants to wear this one dress (and it's the worst of course lol), she won't eat much and when she does she has to inspect it, smell it, lick it, to make sure it's exactly how it usually is. She does talk but she likes to scream and point more. Also the ONLY thing that calms her down and gets her to actually sit still is watching movies/videos. She does not adapt to change well at all, unless it's something she likes. And even then she gets almost manic about it. She gets super super fixated and obsessed with little things no other toddler would ever notice. She WILL NOT nap during the day, she gets more hyper and restless the longer she fights it also. And she will fight it for HOURS. UNTIL BEDTIME! This girl CANNOT be made to do anything she doesn't want to, and she's always been this way. A lot of family members always put in their two cents and don't understand that I've tried all of it already. My mom and grandma think we “let her rule the house". My dad has been a God send and helps me out so much with her. She's such a Grandpa's girl. It's been so hard for me to explain the way she is, especially to doctors who all keep telling me everything is "normal". I've tried a few times to bring this up but they're never willing to even entertain the idea. Where do I go from here? I just wish I had resources and advice because throughout these three long and hardest years of my life, I've been figuring it all out on my own. Any advice, insight, resources, steps, anything at all would be helpful at this point. Thank you!