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Getting mad for little things?

I’m a SAHM and my husband and I have somewhere to be at 8 this morning. It’s about an hour drive and I got up at 5 am to take a shower and get ready to look nice for the event but also for him. But it makes me so mad that he can wake up 15 minutes before we have to leave take a shower, brush his teeth, get dressed and go. I put so much time in so early and he’s like “okay I’m ready” AND HE STILL LOOKS GOOD! It makes me want to punch him. And I don’t have want to ruin the day by being mad about this😔

  • Anonymous
    Aug 17

    Guys in general are just less maintenance? Especially if they have shorter hair. Social norms don’t require them to wear makeup... I mean they could look better with makeup but what we are used to seeing is them without it. Imagine a society where it is the opposite where we just see beauty in women WITHOUT makeup and can see beauty in men with it. It’s just a societal norm to accept men a certain way that had little effort to achieve that. In my relationship, it’s the opposite. If we are dressing up, it takes my husband longer to get ready. Even though he takes really quick showers, he goes through like 15 outfit changes. I take a longer shower because of my hair but the portion after that, I’m much quicker. I don’t have as many outfits as he does to choose from and I’m very minimal when it comes to makeup. I actually get irritated that he doesn’t take a shorter amount of time to just get ready.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 21

    Mine takes forever!!! It drives me crazy, we’re always late if we’re going somewhere together. I’ve tried everything, from telling him the wrong time to setting alarms for him. Now with two little ones, I cannot help him anymore. If we’re late, I try not to stress about it, blow it off as a little thing. And do lots of deep breathing on the way, ha!

  • Jennifer
    Aug 22

    Don't get mad over it, you're only gonna stress yourself out. Some guys just don't need that much time to get ready. Mine husband is the opposite. He always cause me to be late when I remind him a month ahead, weeks, days.......and then it comes to the day of the event, he would take shower, get dress, but then have to go on smoke breaks. We are already late, but he has to smoke a cigarette first. It's like that's his daily cup of coffee. It gets me mad, but I learned to not sweat the small stuff. It is what it is, getting more mad is not gonna change things and just make be stressed out even more so I just take some deep breathing and have a good time to the event.