Posted in Bottle Feeding, Pumping, Babies

Giving up.

Anonymous

I feel like I’m giving up on breastfeeding, I’m an exclusive pumper and it feels like a ball and chain having to do it all the time! Now that my milk supply has dropped significantly (used to make 7oz now I’m lucky if I make 2oz) after my allergic reaction part of me just wants to give up. My baby is 3 months and we just stared giving her half formula and it SO MUCH EASIER. I don’t want to give up but I’m feeling so defeated.

  • Jackie
    Oct 24

    I breastfeed all 4 of my children. I had tough times but I also had a friend who was there to encourage me to keep going, but with that said, You have to do what you need to be there for your child in EVERY way. Your mental and physical well-being is important and DO NOT feel less than bc of milk

  • Anonymous
    Oct 24

    I am exclusively pumping and my babe is 6 months. I feel your pain it is hard. If I wasn’t a stay at home mom I would have quit by now. Something that helped me keep my supply was sticking to a strict pumping routine. I pump for 20 minutes every 3-4 hours. I also make myself a batch of lactation cookies that I keep frozen and on hand for if and when my supply drops. You have to keep your sanity. If it isn’t working to continue to pump then don’t.

  • Amanda
    Oct 24

    I understand. I exclusively pumped for 6 months. If you’re done with it that’s ok. If you don’t want to do it anymore, save your sanity and use formula. There is NOTHING wrong with that. I also felt a pull to continue, but I knew my baby would be perfectly healthy either way. And if mama is happy, everyone is happy. ❤️

  • Jessica
    Oct 24

    My son wouldn’t latch so I pumped for 2 months until I slowly started to dry up and I was in so much pain I couldn’t take it any more. Formula feeding saved my life after that and my LO slept better. DO NOT let other people make you feel guilty. You are doing an amazing job!

  • Meghan
    Oct 24

    I understand. If you feel this way, you should switch to formula. I did after 3 months of breastfeeding and I have an extremely healthy, smart 2.5 year old.

  • Julie
    Oct 24

    Ummm, I take HUGE issue with the first comment. “Be a strong mom???!!” Isn’t she unbelievably strong by admitting her frustration?? Isn’t she unbelievably strong by making it 3 months?! Strong moms come in all forms. If your baby is thriving and happy that is ALL that matters. I exclusively pumped from about 14 weeks all the way to 11.5 months. It was hard and I literally started to feel nauseated when the clock ticked closer and closer to hookup time. I wouldn’t have made it without the constant support and encouragement from my husband and my mom. It literally took a village to feed my baby. I also had to supplement with formula at times and it was a huge lifesaver. This is a personal decision and only you know when you’re ready to stop. Just remember that whenever and whatever you decide, it’s the best decision for YOU and your baby. Don’t listen to ANYONE else about this!!! The ONLY advice I would offer is to not quit on a bad day. Make sure the decision is one you arrive at and are comfortable with. Also, research your formula choice. If possible select a formula with 2’FL HMO. I know the basic similac has it. HMO is a type of complex sugar chain which acts as an essential prebiotic for our babies and helps establish good gut health. It’s one of the predominant components of human milk and the 2’FL variant is the predominant variant in human milk. Lots of studies have been done showing that formulas with HMO help babies fight illness similarly to babies who are EBF.

  • Jenn
    Oct 24

    I quit after 6 weeks because I was exclusively pumping and it was driving me nuts. My LO is 5 months and is doing great on formula, and I'm such a better parent because I get to sleep! I give you a lot of credit for exclusively pumping this long, but you have to think about yourself too.

  • Birdie
    Oct 24

    When I was 3 months in I wasn’t told that my supply would drop. It happens cause you body is adjusting to the needs of your baby, don’t freak out. But I did, i was allergic to the teas, I did virtex (natural hormone supplement) & goats rue. None of it really worked. I tried pumping after feeding & got hardly anything. What really helped was when I started pumping before I fed her. I would only pump for maybe 10mins then when I fed her she got a little foremilk & more hindmilk. Your baby has a stronger sucking motion so they can get more milk out of you than a pump. I went from 2oz per breast to 4oz per breast.

  • Jessica
    Oct 24

    @Julie, my lactation consultant said those same words to me when I was so depressed about failing. “ you’re giving up on your son, it’s so much better for him, lots of people can do it”..... I was not in a good place. Thank you for supporting the original poster and all of the Mamas who try to do their best! THAT’S what makes a strong mother 💪

  • Julie
    Oct 24

    @Jessica, ugh I cannot stand when anyone has the audacity to shame someone for feeding their child formula. I’m sorry you went through that at such a vulnerable time!! How we feed our babies is one of the first intense and personal decisions we have to make as parents and except a few rare cases we are all just trying to do our very best!!! To suggest that feeding a baby formula is in some way failing or simpler or easier is bullshit. I fed my daughter in all ways and none of it was ever easy.

  • Julie
    Oct 24

    Also, there’s this little gem that one of my sisters sent me when I was down. It helps put it in perspective. And it’s so true. This morning my daughter was eating a raisin while I was preparing her sippys for daycare and you know what?? I haven’t fed her raisins in at least 3 days. I have no idea where it came from or where she found it but I didn’t even stop her. 😂

  • Ariel
    Oct 24

    Please im begging you even if your supply is low dont stop. It is so good for baby to get that milk. I would of killed to be able to breastfeed my baby girl. Your strong mama you can do this

  • Lici
    Oct 24

    My baby is only 6 weeks and I am feeling the same way. I ebf and I’m getting tired. It feels like it never ends. Sometimes I think about making the switch to formula. I say do what is best for you and baby. As long as a baby is getting fed it should not matter if it is formula or breast milk. A fed healthy baby is the goal and either forms can achieve that.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 24

    It’s definitely been an uphill battle! We where doing great until my body started to freak out! I’ve had internal hemorrhoids, gallstones, Hives and to top it off my period came back. It’s been safe to say I’ve been going thru it. I’m only 22 and never did I imagine it postpartum would be this hard! Thank you ladies so much for sharing and for understanding. I’m a stay at home mom and sometimes it feels like I’m the only one going thru this.

  • Amanda
    Oct 24

    Everyone used to make me feel like a sorry mom because I stopped breastfeeding at 3 months but my baby is feeling and weighing a whole lot better after I stopped . It’s okay to stop you don’t need to listen to anybody else just what you feel is right

  • Katherine
    Oct 25

    You do you!!! Fed is best whether it is from the breast or formula. I struggled BF’ing with both my girls. Made it 6mo with first and 4mo with 2nd. My sanity and a healthy, fed baby was more important!

  • Jenny
    Oct 26

    This was me to exactly! I made the switch to formula and I can’t even express the relief and freedom I felt. It was great. A happy Mom means a happy baby. ☺️