Graveyard shift

To all of you who work nights, how do your kids handle you not being there at night. I have 5yo B/G twins and I’ve noticed them getting more upset lately when I have to leave for work, especially my daughter. I’ve been on nights for 2.5 years now and this started just a few months ago so it’s not like they weren’t already adapted to the shift. Tuesday nights are the hardest because Wednesday’s are my early day so I go to work before they get out of school. I put them to bed on Tuesday night and don’t see them until I pick them up from school on Thursday afternoon. Just curious if anyone else has had a similar situation and how long it lasted. I can always go back to day shift but it would be quite a pay cut, but at the same time I don’t want my kids to get upset every time I leave for work

  • Julie
    Feb 28

    I think it will pass. My mom worked nights for a few years when I was young and I remember HATING it. My dad was great but he just wasn’t the same as mom!!!!! The long stretch from Tuesday to Thursday is probably so hard on them too...that sounds really tough. Is there any way you could do FaceTime or some kind of video chat on that day to say hello?? Also, on your first day off after it maybe try to “make up” for the stretch by doing something fun....my mom would always do something small and special with me on her first long day after a week of working nights, like she’d paint my nails or play school with me or something to kind of “make up” for it. Good luck, mama!!

  • Ashly
    Feb 28

    I work nights too. It is hard, they want mom. They get upset every time I leave. They are 2,3 and 12- I see the little ones during the day but my oldest I only see for an hour after I pick her up and then I have to get ready as soon as dad gets home.

  • Julie
    Feb 28

    Yeah, Ashly. That’s what I remember too...we all wanted mom. My brothers were older and a little less needy, but while my dad was great he just wasn’t soft and snuggly and all those mom things.

  • Laura
    Feb 28

    When my husband is out of town and in a different time zone, he records videos of himself doing things and saying hi to us so we can watch at our convenience. We have shared our Google photos, so he doesn't even need to send the videos to us, I can just see them from my app.