Anonymous

Guilty of not enjoying days spent alone with son

Son is almost 4. I recently got my hours cut a lot at work so I’ve been staying home fridays to cut child care costs. My kid is so needy and needs me to entertain him non stop. He is so cute and I love and cherish this special age of littleness but it’s been a long day of playing with him and running errands. He doesn’t nap and we don’t have a lot of friends here. I initiate play dates with the friends we do have but it hardly ever pans out. Feeling so guilty for wishing my fridays would hurry up and be over because I’m exhausted playing with him.

  • Jenn
    Aug 11

    Don't feel bad. That's a normal feeling. My LO is 15 months and I'm with her a lot more since it is summer (I'm a teacher). While I love her and being able to watch her grow and learn, the days are LONG! And trying to figure out ways to keep her entertained all day is rough. I've found that walks are my best friend. She is entertained by what she sees or finds and I can kill time, get some exercise, and even run a couple errands.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 11

    I don't know where you are, but where I am there are tons of free things to do with my 3 yo. Playgrounds, splash pads, short hikes, riding bikes, libraries, museums usually have at least free days, cheap movies. I can't sit at home with him all day, we NEED to get out and go places! Just Google free things to do with kids

  • Laura
    Aug 11

    On days I'm alone with our daughter I have to plan activities or I'd go crazy. The best are things I need/want to do. Like visiting friends, going for a walk or bike ride, going food shopping, going to an art museum. Plus, I find she's less cranky and more observant/occupies with just looking around when we're out and about. We also watch TV on those days (basically never do otherwise) but it's only things I want to watch, like cooking shows or nature shows. Also, having the radio or podcasts on can make just hanging out at home a lot more interesting.

  • Nicollette
    Aug 12

    I used to feel similarly until my 4 year old told me she how much she loves staying home and doing nothing with me. She didn’t want to go to the zoo or science center or all the other planned activities I tried to plan to occupy her time. She just wanted to stay home and enjoy being in the house together. My heart melted