Posted in Child Care, Preemies

Has anyone tried either au pairs vs. nannies? I have a preemie baby and am not interested in taking him to daycare for at least the corrected age of 6 months. Any advice?

  • Sara
    Jan 12, 2018

    Au pairs tend to be a cheaper option since they live with you (you don’t pay as much because you’re covering their housing) and they tend to be young. It’s usually a 1-2 year arrangement via an au pair agency. I prefer a nanny personally because -we don’t have space for an au pair in our apartment -we want the same person for many years ideally -you can find someone with more experience than an au pair

  • Julia
    Jan 13, 2018

    I was an Au Pair myself a few years ago, so here’s my thoughts on this. As far as the cost is concerned, I would think that Au Pairs are more expensive. I’m not exactly sure on the cost of a nanny, but for an Au Pair, you have to plan in at least $20,000 a year. That doesn’t include car insurance (if you want the Au Pair to drive), or expenses for extra food. Au Pairs that care for infants are also usually slightly more expensive - an extra $1000 or so added to the program fee. Also, like Sara said, many Au Pairs are very young, and don’t have a ton of experience. Many are straight out of high school, and have never been away from their home country and family. Don’t get me wrong, many step up to the task and do awesome, but others struggle with the responsibility, and it’s very hard to evaluate their abilities before they get here. You could be lucky and get an absolute gem... or not 😉 of course, the same applies to nannies, but usually you’d be able to meet them in person and hopefully be able to judge whether they’re the right fit for your family. So, especially with a young preemie, I think I’d feel better using a nanny with some experience!

  • Caroline
    Jan 13, 2018

    Thank you so much. It is going to be tough since we were thinking the financial aspect but safety and trust are really big factors that outweigh money. We definitely know we will be living paycheck to paycheck here in sunny Cali :( Another question especially locals to orange county, would it be worth it to live off one salary and the other as a stay at home parent? Advantages/disadvantages?

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jan 13, 2018

    Caroline I’m in OC and we live on one paycheck. It’s hard! I’ve been SAHM for 2yrs now and the rigid budget is stressful. BUT! I know I’ll never get this time back with him at this young impressionable age. They’re only this young once and I can always go back to work (which I will next year to cover preschool expense - oy!) If you can do it on one income do it. Even if it’s tight for a few years. It’s so invaluable. My opinion

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jan 13, 2018

    Also I’d like to add to Caroline that I made enough money last year to pay for Xmas presents just by selling stuff around the house on FB marketplace, Let Go, Nextdoor, Craigslist and eBay

  • Caroline
    Jan 13, 2018

    Thank you so much Erin!